Somali Parents

[HaileyBailey]

the problem with young kids these days.

My parents died a while ago, my dad when I was a kid and my mother few years ago. I have no parents anymore, just uncles and aunts who are great to me and have helped me through tough times. However, I have noticed that over the years many of my cousins, mainly the boys are falling into the hiphop tough guy persona. The other day I told my uncle that the younger boy cousin was out late and he has been seen up to no good etc. Instead of asking what exactly was he up to and try to open his eyes to the reality of the situation, he just looked at me and said, don't believe in the gossip of haters ( xaasid) and said anyone who bad mouths his kid should be careful. What??? Now I feel as though I can't even tell my kid cousin to shape up.

[Thuganomics]

Give it another go,maybe you uncle had other things on his mind at that time
And didn't need the added pressure.If after approaching him a second time.You get a similer answer then you know where you stand

[Alphanumeric]

They intervene when it's too late. Rarely do they try and teach them beforehand, when they are impressionable. I'm thankful my mother did that.

Although, I think Somalis are definitely lacking when it comes to other factors of parenting; emotional growth and support, educational and professional guidance, basic communication and understanding.

Try talking to your cousin. Teach him, don't scold him.

[mcali]

Try speaking to your uncle again. Then speaking to your cousin. Then both of them together.

If after all of this they still dont shape up or at least try to then start keeping a record of the trouble that your cousin gets into and the parents reaction. If its a really big situation I'd suggest he go back home for some dhaqan celis.

If all of this is not useful or dosnt work

I am still your brother
mcali

[sexy-kitten]

How old is your younger boy cousin? That's a better question. It's best if you talk to HIM rather than his father. He'll prolly respect you less now that you snitched on him. Younger siblings and cousins need compromise and not confrontation.