My research on Islamic polygamy

[Adali]

regarding Islamic polygamy i asked a feminist woman why she is apposed to it, her answer was; why should the man be allowed to marry several women whiles the woman is only allowed to marry one man, basically her rebuttal was entirely based on gender equality.
I also managed to pose the question to a ordinary woman, her answer was; men who want to have sex with multiple women are sexual deviants and no woman can truly accept that her husband is sleeping with another woman, essential her problem was the sex aspect which is indeed part of polygamy.

the men i interviewed were also largely against Islamic polygamy, but they were less confrontational than the women were. One of the men i interviewed believed that Islamic polygamy is not possible because a man cannot sustain multiple families without back breaking financial and physical strain which will lead to problems in the long haul. Another man i questioned thought the biggest problem would be timing, taking into account the families must have equal time to the husband/father it will prove extremely difficult to meet the requirements.

In conclusion, understanding what both the women and the men were concerned with i realised something, the women were focusing on themselves whiles the men were considering how it would effect themselves but also their families including their wives.

[Alphanumeric]

interesting.

[PrinceDaadi]

I see no research in this post besides this doesnt neeed research.

[Luther]

LOL so asking 3-4 people for their views is enough to call it research?

[Navy9]

females by nature are selective (choose the most fit) and males by nature like to dominate (by having as much as offsprings they can)...that was a phrase i recall from watching a program on Animal Channel regarding animal mating preferences. I somehow believe that statement can be also applied to human species.

[Kukri]

regarding Islamic polygamy i asked a feminist woman why she is apposed to it, her answer was; why should the man be allowed to marry several women whiles the woman is only allowed to marry one man, basically her rebuttal was entirely based on gender equality.
I also managed to pose the question to a ordinary woman, her answer was; men who want to have sex with multiple women are sexual deviants and no woman can truly accept that her husband is sleeping with another woman, essential her problem was the sex aspect which is indeed part of polygamy.

the men i interviewed were also largely against Islamic polygamy, but they were less confrontational than the women were. One of the men i interviewed believed that Islamic polygamy is not possible because a man cannot sustain multiple families without back breaking financial and physical strain which will lead to problems in the long haul. Another man i questioned thought the biggest problem would be timing, taking into account the families must have equal time to the husband/father it will prove extremely difficult to meet the requirements.

In conclusion, understanding what both the women and the men were concerned with i realised something, the women were focusing on themselves whiles the men were considering how it would effect themselves but also their families including their wives.

I jumped off at that stop right there!

feminist kulaha. nacala feminist iyo wixii sheegta iyo wixii wax la wadaaga ba ku yaal!

[Adali]

alphanumeric, i think so too brother.

the womens arguments were facades, the feminist attempted to manipulate the gender equality concept, which confuses people because we all support gender equality, but the thing she suggest is completely illogical.

As i said, it is a facade, the ordinary chick was less obvious, she claimed that she was unhappy with her husband having sex with another woman, again her answer had no logical grounds. The reason is complex but i will try to explain it, this woman is extremely cunning, she appeals to the mens morals(i will explain this later). She is not really against her husband having "sex with another woman" but use it as an excuse because this type of reasoning appeals to men. So what is behind the facade you ask, my theory is this.Women primarily want to form companionships with the other gender without the interest of sex, this is why women tend find it easy to befriend men. In general women are less interested in sex unlike the men. As that is the case, it comes to no shock when i tell you that women are far less interested in a man's sexual activity, (it's a non issue to them). This nature allows single women to grow extremely interested in forming a companionship with a man, who has had an active past, men who are married, men who are engaged, men who have been married etc. And this is because what attracts a woman to a man is his ability to take care of her, companionship(sex is a non issue). Therefor a second wife will be keen on the marriage, because she sees a man who is capable of companionship.

coming back to mens morals, the reason why we find it hard to refute the latter argument is because our brains are wired differently to theirs, this is obviously to their advantage in many situations including this one. Men have carnal desires that far exceeds that of the average woman, therefor it makes no sense for a man to share his woman(specifically for sexual purposes) with another man, so when a woman convinces a man she shares same nature, it appeals to him. But woman are not like that by nature, they relish companionship. of course women also enjoy sex, but it is not as important to them as companionship, for example a woman will have problem with her husband socialising with male/female because it either threats her companionship or cuts into her time socialising with her husband. A man will find it easy to leave her with her friends, but on the other hand a man can become extremely paranoid if she spends time with another man, because this threatens him.


In a functioning Islamic Polygamy, there are issues for the woman, she wont like that she has to share her husband, but the real issue she will be having are Time, Resource and Companionship. Not sex. Not the lack extra husbands.

In conclusion; if Islamic requirements are met, the husband and wives interest will not conflict and a polygamous arrangement can benefit them all, and society as a whole.