Advice for Marriage seeking girls

[Sealion]

When a Pro-posal is a No-posal.


There comes a point in our lives where it’s time to look at proposals, and then comes the time to actually accept proposals. But where do you draw the line? Where do you say no? How do you know you’re supposed to say no? When you find that your parents are swooning over the guy of their dreams, but he’s nothing close to someone you would even consider spending the rest of your WHOLE entire life with. Here’s a list I came up with, to reevaluate a proposal that is in all actuality- a “no-posal”

1. He spends the entire time talking about himself- You could write a book about his life, including the climax and quite possibly even the conclusion because he becomes so predictable.

2. He rejects the coffee and tea- He knows no proper etiquette and insults coffee and tea when offered to him, rather than just take the cup and pretend to sip from it.

3. He’s given the opportunity to speak to you on the phone a couple of times, and instead becomes super clingy- If he hasn’t heard from you for days, he begins to freak out. He texts you multiple times when one text has not been responded to. He calls you to make sure you’re alive. He leaves you gasping for air because he’s so clingy, you just cannot breathe.

4. His appearance is completely unacceptable to you.- Acceptable is fine, you can change acceptable and turn it into amazing. However, when something is unacceptable, then it’s kinda hard to change it. If you feel as though you cannot wake up to his face every morning without heading to the nearest trash can for stomach support, then don’t waste your time or his. In Islam, you have to be able to wake up to him and accept him. If you can’t do that, then there’s no way you can make it happen.

5. He has more girls than guys on his facebook, and half of them don’t even speak the same language he does.- This is when you know you’ve got a keeper. Joking. When he’s following multiple fan pages of girls who have less clothes on than a Rainbow Mannequin, then step away and keep your sanity. If his friends list is of the same manner, then it’s best to not tamper with something that might drive you crazy and leave you constantly upset.

6. He warns you that he’s always going to be busy, and you’re going to have to deal with it- It takes a second to send a text message, and a minute to make a phone call. There are 24 hours in a day, you do the math. If he claims he’s too busy for you, yet he’s proposing, then chances are he has no earthly clue what he’s doing. You make time, because that person means that much to you. And if you can’t make time, then you shouldn’t be able to have that special person.

7. He curses in front of you- If you barely know this guy, and he has the audacity to curse in your presence, then that’s just a hint of what he’s like on a daily basis. If he finds it okay to say these words in front of you, then this might just be God’s way of showing you why he’s not the one. A guy who respects a girl knows not to curse in front of her. The same goes for ladies, a girl who shows respect for a guy knows better than to curse in his presence.

8. He spends the majority of his day playing video games, when he begins to taste his body odor…he showers.- A guy who doesn’t have his priorities straightened out, isn’t someone you would like to commit to. There has to be a medium for everything, everything should have its limits. If you feel as though he’s scattered all over the place, then there’s a huge chance that your engagement and marriage will be scattered all over the place. Scattered communication doesn’t sound too appealing, now does it?

9. He relies on his mom for everything, including emotional support- It’s beautiful when a guy loves and respects his mom, but when he’s 27 and leaning on his mom for everything (including having her change his Depends for him) then he’s not going to be an easy one to be married to. This might also cause conflict in your marriage later on, because he’s so dependent on his mother for support. Some mother-in-laws are truly a blessing to have, but it’s not the same when you’re basically married to them. That’s when the blessing fades away.

10. He makes you feel bad about yourself, in order to make himself look amazing- You want your husband to be your equal. When you’re getting to know him, and you realize he’s bringing the worst of your emotions out, it might be time to reconsider. You want someone who will bring out your best qualities, and make you want to be a better person. If that’s not happening, and you’re going to sleep feeling gloomy, you might be looking at Mr. Wrong, rather than Mr. Right."

Great advice I found from a Muslim therapist.

[haxxor]

Replace "He" with "She" and "His" with "Her". Boom, you get an advice for marriage seeking boys.

Anyway, this article is very interesting, thanks.

[PrinceDaadi]

ppl r making marriage complicated, marriage is like any other venture, as Wise man said before "nothing ventured, nothing gained" or as Arabs do say "من حصد زرع".

So jst give it a try if it works good if not then go back to the market and get new one.

[Sealion]

ppl r making marriage complicated, marriage is like any other venture, as Wise man said before "nothing ventured, nothing gained" or as Arabs do say "من حصد زرع".

So jst give it a try if it works good if not then go back to the market and get new one.

Some of us want to marry only once!

[Nanees]

the guy im currently talking to is guilty of 3,7 and 9.

[haxxor]

But, being clingy shows that man loves you too much. Shouldn't you be glad for that? I think advice #3 is flawed.

[Sealion]

the guy im currently talking to is guilty of 3,7 and 9.

My man is only guilty of #3, he's got horrible road rage! But he's perfect in every way otherwise. Just talk to him about these things and if he doesn't change give him his walking papers.

[Nanees]

the guy im currently talking to is guilty of 3,7 and 9.

My man is only guilty of #3, he's got horrible road rage! But he's perfect in every way otherwise. Just talk to him about these things and if he doesn't change give him his walking papers.

abaayo a marriage isnt made or broken on the husband cussing at strangers... youve got more important criteria to get answers to.

[greenday]

is appearance is completely unacceptable to you[/b].- Acceptable is fine, you can change acceptable and turn it into amazing. However, when something is unacceptable, then it’s kinda hard to change it. If you feel as though you cannot wake up to his face every morning without heading to the nearest trash can for stomach support, then don’t waste your time or his. In Islam, you have to be able to wake up to him and accept him. If you can’t do that, then there’s no way you can make it happen.

She missed one nimanka muranka badan, i cant stand nin sidi dhoocil ila tirsanaayo

[Sealion]

the guy im currently talking to is guilty of 3,7 and 9.

My man is only guilty of #3, he's got horrible road rage! But he's perfect in every way otherwise. Just talk to him about these things and if he doesn't change give him his walking papers.

abaayo a marriage isnt made or broken on the husband cussing at strangers... youve got more important criteria to get answers to.

I know I'm going to marry him regardless. He’s the most perfect thing out there. He’s the first thought I have when I wake up and the last thought before I go to sleep. He’s the reason behind my every smile, the reason behind every tear drop. He’s the one that encourages me to go on when I feel like giving up. His words put me at ease and make me forget all my worries and troubles. He’s always there for me, the only one that truly listens to everything I say.

[Sealion]

More good advice.

Q:With so many girls our age married, does it bother you that you aren't? It's really bugging me, esp when I see girls YOUNGER than me getting hitched.
Anonymous

A:Not really. Marriage isn’t a competition, nor is it a race of who can get there the fastest. It’s a long term commitment, and its basis begins when you get engaged. There might be some younger girls who are ready mentally, and are getting married for the right reason. However, many of them really aren’t ready and seeing them get engaged kind of upsets me. Marriage is one of the most important choices a person makes in their lifetime, so I’m absolutely fine with it happening on its own time.

[Nanees]

My man is only guilty of #3, he's got horrible road rage! But he's perfect in every way otherwise. Just talk to him about these things and if he doesn't change give him his walking papers.

abaayo a marriage isnt made or broken on the husband cussing at strangers... youve got more important criteria to get answers to.

I know I'm going to marry him regardless. He’s the most perfect thing out there. He’s the first thought I have when I wake up and the last thought before I go to sleep. He’s the reason behind my every smile, the reason behind every tear drop. He’s the one that encourages me to go on when I feel like giving up. His words put me at ease and make me forget all my worries and troubles. He’s always there for me, the only one that truly listens to everything I say.

this is sweet, but how do you care so much about somebody you're not married to?

[Sealion]

this is sweet, but how do you care so much about somebody you're not married to?

Inshallah we will be soon. If you're in Toronto in a couple months maybe you'll crash my wedding.

[Nanees]

this is sweet, but how do you care so much about somebody you're not married to?

Inshallah we will be soon. If you're in Toronto in a couple months maybe you'll crash my wedding.

Thats wassup!

[Murax]

#3 is almost exlusively women
#6 Although most girls act like they don't like this, deep down they love it
#2