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how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:23 pm
by grandpakhalif
one of my close friends he has an older sister who is in her 20s and she always coming home drunk and yakked every weekend. he even told me his dad use to beat her but everytime she keeps coming back drunk. now its at a boiling point where she will be kicked out of the house. he told he needs advise and I said I will come back to it.

what would you advise him to do with his sister. shes not religious btw.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:25 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Introduce her to me and I will set her straight. Coming to your hood in 2 weeks.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:30 pm
by Basra-
:lol: grandpa, i think the idea of you knowing a 'friend' who has a sister with drinking problem is hilarious. (given your uptight religious personality in somalinet lol) :lol:

I think the girl is just like any other westernised people--she is just doing what her fellow agements and fellow religion-less peeps are doing. Its only natural she would behave this way. your 'friend' cannot do anything. She is an adult. Let he be kicked out of the house, maybe that would be a wake up call or a downhill from where she is---lol either way she needs to snap out of it and one of the above option will undoubtedly snap her back to reality. :clap:

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:32 pm
by grandpakhalif
AbdiWahab252 wrote:Introduce her to me and I will set her straight. Coming to your hood in 2 weeks.
sxb i don't think you set her straight you will lead her to more sins like sipping JD.


Basra, wallahi billahi its not my sis, I am the oldest of my family, so you support evicting her? what if she becomes worst god forbid? :|

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:33 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Grandpapa,

Sipping is a step up from guzzling JD.

Slow steps, lets discuss this at the Countrystyle in Dixon.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:36 pm
by Substance
Give her a relaxing weekend semester in Somalia, and there you marry her to a 50+ gezer as his forth wife. I actually dont see another solution.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:36 pm
by Basra-
grandpa

There is nothing worst than coming home drunked. Disrespecting people who house u? At least if she were independent and a hooker--she would fair more. So if u fear her being worst-- forget it. :lol:

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:37 pm
by grandpakhalif
AbdiWahab252 wrote:Grandpapa,

Sipping is a step up from guzzling JD.

Slow steps, lets discuss this at the Countrystyle in Dixon.
Countrystyle you think I'm an oday like you? I wouldn't be caught dead there.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:48 pm
by DarthSomali
Seems u are talking about ur own sister while using fake story.
Tell ur sister to enjoy her life, soon hellfire will be her destiny If she doesnt change.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:49 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Grandpapa.

At least tell me where she frequents and I will advise her :up:

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:53 pm
by Basra-
grandpa

tell your friend to talk to her without judging her. The girl is probably going through some phase. i notice that people who drink to a point of drunkedness always have something in their mind. they are surpressing their pain. the best thing to do for her is --be a friend and not a judge. I recommend going for lunch---that way she is sober and clear thinking--list out reasons that u r on her side, and also how u can together team up to help each other. (meaning her and her brother. grandpa stay out of it with your silent judgements lol) :clap:

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 2:57 pm
by AbdiWahab252
Basra- wrote:grandpa

tell your friend to talk to her without judging her. The girl is probably going through some phase. i notice that people who drink to a point of drunkedness always have something in their mind. they are surpressing their pain. the best thing to do for her is --be a friend and not a judge. I recommend going for lunch---that way she is sober and clear thinking--list out reasons that u r on her side, and also how u can together team up to help each other. (meaning her and her brother. grandpa stay out of it with your silent judgements lol) :clap:
:-O :-O :-O

Basra- came up with a good idea :-O :-O :-O

P.S. Let me try to help her first ina abti.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 3:02 pm
by Alphanumeric
Basra- wrote:grandpa

tell your friend to talk to her without judging her. The girl is probably going through some phase. i notice that people who drink to a point of drunkedness always have something in their mind. they are surpressing their pain. the best thing to do for her is --be a friend and not a judge. I recommend going for lunch---that way she is sober and clear thinking--list out reasons that u r on her side, and also how u can together team up to help each other. (meaning her and her brother. grandpa stay out of it with your silent judgements lol) :clap:
:up:

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 3:04 pm
by Hyperactive
im assuming all other steps already done like advising her, reminding her of Allah, some times scaring her of hell fire etc.

i say yes kick her out, maybe that would be her rock bottom and maybe is wake up call. enabling her is not the answer if she continues her bad behavior.

tell her brother to pray for her, specially last 1/3 of night, that is every night and never give up dua. and her parents too cause dua parents is mostajaaba.

Re: how should I advise him

Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 3:04 pm
by Basra-
:o :roll: Alpha and abdi, why do i get the feeling that u all beg me to be 'nicer' and 'kinder' rather than my usual self of being a mean girl? I dont get it. :lol: :lol: