Smart, educated, yet unable to find partners.

[Talo alle udaa]

There has a been a rising trend in the Somali diaspora. Smart educated somali females are finding it harder and harder to get married. Having done just about everything right in the dos and dont's of their society, succeeding were their counterparts have fallen (ie somali males), a great number of educated somali sisters find themselves staying single, longer-not because of their own will but lack of suitors.

No one has the actual numbers, but its clear a greater number of somali females graduate and go on to higher education than somali males. The typical Somali male seems to have a number of options available to him, whether he decides to pursue higher education or not. For one, he can pursue the Taxi driver route were he returns back home and is treated like a king. This is regardless of his educational level. Due to the fact of that he is coming from the west, he is in a position to pick and choose as he wishes. And because he is a MALE, the hierarchy of power does not change.

The issue seems to lie with the educated Somali male who for some odd reason either pursue traditional women or worse, marry a foriegner (muslim or) they meet at their respective institutions. The biggest culprits are our beard trimming brothers. Although the option of marrying foriegners can be said to be available to the women, being a conservative society its not as easy for women to follow such a route.

What you end up having then is a helpless situation in which our most brightest women are unable to find equally educated men. With a last resort, the family arranges marriage with a camel herding cousin form the countryside for their daughter. The ultimate insult occurs when this fiercly independent young nomad, whose been told his whole life that his in charge begins to dictate to the more intelligent being.

[hipsterrunoff]

These women should marry out then. They will find a sexy cadaan man who is on the same level as them.

[shaab_]

These women should marry out then. They will find a sexy cadaan man who is on the same level as them.

Kids will have no clan lineage. Hehe, the Somali clan system is epic.

[Talo alle udaa]

These women should marry out then. They will find a sexy cadaan man who is on the same level as them.

It's the old question of, should a women get educated, if by doing so she compromises her ability to find suitors?
Or better redefined, should women reconsider marrying first before pursuing higher up ed, like PhD?

Now in terms of the Somali muslim women, the option of marrying a foreigner who is not a muslim pays a high price upto full ex-communication from family members and close relatives.

Hiosterrunoff, in light of this topic, do you plan on going ontco college
and pursue things like medicine or pharmacy?

[hipsterrunoff]

Kids will have no clan lineage. Hehe, the Somali clan system is epic.

Who cares about clan. I sure don't.

[grandpakhalif]

I'll be honest, no man wants an intelligent, educated girl, we want a woman we can control, who will please us when we demand it, who will cook us adaquate food, which will please our bellies and a girl who obeys him. Educated girls usually come off as annoying, prude and pompous, which are not qualities a man desires for our partner.

[Talo alle udaa]

It's my own suspicion that a large number of sisters on this site fall under this category. I think we should have a serious discussion about this.

[hipsterrunoff]

Talo: Of course. I won't purse medicine or pharmacy tho.
Grandpak: Have fun with your future bimbo wife. You have my blessings.

[grandpakhalif]

Talo: Of course. I won't purse medicine or pharmacy tho.
Grandpak: Have fun with your future bimbo wife. You have my blessings.

[Talo alle udaa]

Talo: Of course. I won't purse medicine or pharmacy tho.
Grandpak: Have fun with your future bimbo wife. You have my blessings.

Hipsterrunoff, being a young female, is it because you are not interested in these fields or do you fear you would be "past your prime" as some would say by the time you are done?

GP, lay off the weed man its almost Ramadan.

[shaab_]

Kids will have no clan lineage. Hehe, the Somali clan system is epic.

Who cares about clan. I sure don't.

Most Isaaq parents don't want their daughters coming home with a walanweyn.

[ZubeirAwal]

I've got an aunt who's 25 and she done her uni in africa and now has a job in hargeisa earining about $2,000 a month , she never been out of africa and speaks english,french,somali, arabic fluenty , her sisters / my other aunts are here in the uk and well are, immigrants who are married so i think i know wat u mean but i think inshallah she would settle down.

[TeAmo]

These women should marry out then. They will find a sexy cadaan man who is on the same level as them.

Kids will have no clan lineage. Hehe, the Somali clan system is epic.

Shaab you are obsessed with clan and lineage and bullshit Who gives a funk?

[hipsterrunoff]

Grandpak: Seriously. Like wtf? Don't you want someone you can have deep convos with on issues such as what is currently going on in the world, politics and sports?! Also, a partner who will understand inside jokes as well as other things that you're watching on tv or read in a newspaper/magazine?! Or do you just want a simple woman who you just brought from the bushes of Somalia that only understands things like click click.

[Talo alle udaa]

will you folks plz attempt not to derail my topic. I feel all the comments so far are by our younger snet members (some of whom are previous Slife members ive been told)