Too Good to be true ? Relationship question.

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:51 pm

Okay, so say you have a male friend who has been going out with this nonMuslim woman for some time. Things are moving well and they are compatible. They have discussed the issue of marriage and she doesn't want to convert. She however has agreed to his request that the children be raised as Muslims. She has positive views of the religion but converting is a step too far for her more than marrying out of her race.

So folks, do you think this is a genuine deal or not ? FYI, the woman belongs is a secular protestant Christian.

Post by **Basra-** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:53 pm

Dummy. She just wants the babies and then u r kicked out! :dj:

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:54 pm

Basra- wrote: Dummy. She just wants the babies and then u r kicked out!

Just how you kicked me out

AgentOfChaos · Post by **AgentOfChaos** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:58 pm

Perhaps she is a informer/spy?

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:59 pm

Agent,

Not according to my sources plus going that deep cover is some serious shiid ! :whoa:

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:03 pm

If she truly believes in her own faith how can she be okay with her children potentially going to hell for not believing in the God she believes in? (we can all pretend to be hippie but that is what choosing a religion comes down to)

SimplySerene · Post by **SimplySerene** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:04 pm

lol @ AbdiWahab252 and relationship topics. predictable.

If they have kids she can easily change her mind on what the family can and cannot practice. Who knows people change. She might suddenly miss Christmas and Thankgiving and start introducing it to the family. And if the relationship ever ends then she might have full custody and raise the kids as she wishes.

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:05 pm

BlackVelvet wrote:If she truly believes in her own faith how can she be okay with her children potentially going to hell for not believing in the God she believes in? (we can all pretend to be hippie but that is what choosing a religion comes down to)

Good point. This is why I like you: brains + beauty, mashallah.

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:06 pm

SimplySerene wrote:lol @ AbdiWahab252 and relationship topics. predictable.

If they have kids she can easily change her mind on what the family can and cannot practice. Who knows people change. She might suddenly miss Christmas and Thankgiving and start introducing to the family. And if the relationship ever ends in a divorce then she might have full custody and raise the kids as she wishes.

These topics beat qabiil, sectarianism, and gender wars.

Your points are good. When that loving feeling is lost, people change.

AgentOfChaos · Post by **AgentOfChaos** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:09 pm

AbdiWahab252

You never know sxb, some are pretty committed to their mission.

No need to thank me, enjoy the paranoia sxb. :pac:

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:10 pm

Agent,

My paranoia keeps me safe and sound. :blessed:

ManD333q · Post by **ManD333q** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:12 pm

Lol 'your' friends seem to have alot of relations problems.

but it's never good idea to marry someone who is not muslim...unless you can live with the consequences

FarIyoAlif · Post by **FarIyoAlif** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:30 pm

Abdiwahaab

Think of the consequences if it goes bad and they get divorced, the kids that were meant to be raised as muslim might become protestant christians instead. Also those kids will have a lot of problems when they grow older, and they might have to choose between their parents.

If she's not willing to convert to Islam then tell your friend to go find himself a muslim woman.

Somalidii beryahan maxa ku dhacay? Too many Somalis involved in interracial relationships/marriages, not that it's a bad thing laakin miyaa la isnacay

Post by **FAH1223** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:36 pm

she'll probably end up Muslim down the line if your friend is practicing

Post by **AbdiWahab252** » Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:42 pm

Mandeeq,

My friends are good people. I generally like them but we all make choices that we end up regretting.

FariyoAliif,

The gender wars are tough too. Its amazing but I remember my grandpa (AUN) who served with the British Colonial Forces in Burma who told me that you will learn a lot from living with the gaalo but you will give up something to them. As I see more marriages with nonSomalis, or how a lot of people get absorbed/assimilated into their host communities,its just a matter of a generation before we all become assimilated into our host societies like all immigrant groups.

FAH,

She has decided not to convert what makes you think she will change.

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