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I always used to date western girls Whites, or other kafir girls, not somali or muslim girls, so when i first turned 18, i meet a somali girl, it was the first time i was about to date somali girl.

You can not be with somali women, like the other western ladies, or thats what i thought, and also thats what they say from the beginning. she came with Black tight shuuko and qaamaar, mansha-allah even do she had tight shuuko, it was easy to see her body shapes. I am not use to sit in front of a girl and just talk forever, am used to only 10 or 20 mins talking, and the rest kissing and playing around.

sitting before her was not easy for me, because i had all kind of nasty thoughts about her, but i remained patient instead. it was the worst date of my life we talked in a coffe bar like 3-4 hours. while we where talking she told me that she do not like to be kissed, come near boys, and no body contacts with them. after that day she never called me, i thought did i do something wrong?

I meet the same girl 10 months later, I asked for her phone nr again, and she gave it to me, then i called her, and asked her out Again, this time not coffebar or public areas. but behind the Apartment, this time, i came stoned on weed, iscold, and careless. i just said 3-4 Words, then start kissing her wild, then she started to kiss me back. the rest was history. she called me everyday, and asked if we can see each other. the situation changed


1: the problem is when she tells you, no man can touch my body it Means yes you can do whatever you want. but only you.

2: somali girls like to play sheeihkad, don't ever believe in that, and be yourself, say whatever you wanna say, and do to her what ever you wanna do to her.

3: somali girls Again act grown up, they love playful boys and playing around with them


4: All in all never take her serious, just read her body language. :up:
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How old are you Marlboro? You seem rather young.

The sister is clearly conflicted with what she has been taught and her actions. That seem to be dichotomous. It would only be gentleman like to develop some clear boundaries and to not take advantage of this girl or others similar to her in the future. Be a man, be a gatekeeper in the absence of one.
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Marlboro20 wrote:I always used to date western girls Whites, or other kafir girls, not somali or muslim girls, so when i first turned 18, i meet a somali girl, it was the first time i was about to date somali girl.

You can not be with somali women, like the other western ladies, or thats what i thought, and also thats what they say from the beginning. she came with Black tight shuuko and qaamaar, mansha-allah even do she had tight shuuko, it was easy to see her body shapes. I am not use to sit in front of a girl and just talk forever, am used to only 10 or 20 mins talking, and the rest kissing and playing around.

sitting before her was not easy for me, because i had all kind of nasty thoughts about her, but i remained patient instead. it was the worst date of my life we talked in a coffe bar like 3-4 hours. while we where talking she told me that she do not like to be kissed, come near boys, and no body contacts with them. after that day she never called me, i thought did i do something wrong?

I meet the same girl 10 months later, I asked for her phone nr again, and she gave it to me, then i called her, and asked her out Again, this time not coffebar or public areas. but behind the Apartment, this time, i came stoned on weed, iscold, and careless. i just said 3-4 Words, then start kissing her wild, then she started to kiss me back. the rest was history. she called me everyday, and asked if we can see each other. the situation changed


1: the problem is when she tells you, no man can touch my body it Means yes you can do whatever you want. but only you.

2: somali girls like to play sheeihkad, don't ever believe in that, and be yourself, say whatever you wanna say, and do to her what ever you wanna do to her.

3: somali girls Again act grown up, they love playful boys and playing around with them


4: All in all never take her serious, just read her body language. :up:
I agree with sophisticate, she's conflicted.

Walaal, don't judge all Somali girls based on one you dealt with. When I say no, I mean it. If anyone disrespects that, they are violating my space and rights to my body. Thus they will incur my wrath (will file a harassment complaint if needed) as well as wronging their own soul. I don't play sheikhad - because I'm not a hijabi, some might think I'm one of those party girls but I've never partied, drank, dated, or any of that. But I will f*** someone up for "doing whatever they wanna" to me. And then I'll have my brothers, uncles, cousins, father, and then the police come after them.

Basically - no to everything you said. If you don't respect "no" from a woman and do whatever you want to her, you are sexually harassing her. Honestly, this whole post is disturbing. Would you want someone to do whatever they want to your mother? To not respect her saying no? I'm sure the answer is no. Girls are diverse, we're not all the same. Even if you meet a few who seem confused, don't try to manipulate or force them into anything. That is something you will remember and I promise you will regret if you ever have daughters, God willing, or nieces. You will pray that no one treats them the way you treated women. Those girls will always remember you in a few years as one of the worst people they've met, since you took advantage of them and used them. And do you really want to be that person? You're young and naive. But don't be ignorant. This life is fleeting. Don't soil your soul beyond imagine for such little, shallow, vile pleasure in this world. On top of that, you could be looking at a future of possibly horrible consequences (ie. pregnancies, bad reputation as a manipulator or even rapist, jail time, permanent record, etc). Don't do this to yourself.

People sometimes think that by messing around, it's the girl who is dirtied but the guys are just as dirtied. Don't do this to yourself. Remember the kind of adult you always wanted to grow up into when you were four, six, or eight. Is that who you wanted to be? Would your six year old self be ashamed to meet the present you? Shape yourself to be someone you can be proud of being, on the inside out.
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:lol: @ never take her serious.

Well done. :clap:
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sophisticate wrote:How old are you Marlboro? You seem rather young.

The sister is clearly conflicted with what she has been taught and her actions. That seem to be dichotomous. It would only be gentleman like to develop some clear boundaries and to not take advantage of this girl or others similar to her in the future. Be a man, be a gatekeeper in the absence of one.
am 23.. but first i tried to respect her wishes, she didn't liked that side of me, but she liked the darker side of me. somali women are Unique with there own Unique mentality.
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CushiticReflections wrote:
Marlboro20 wrote:I always used to date western girls Whites, or other kafir girls, not somali or muslim girls, so when i first turned 18, i meet a somali girl, it was the first time i was about to date somali girl.

You can not be with somali women, like the other western ladies, or thats what i thought, and also thats what they say from the beginning. she came with Black tight shuuko and qaamaar, mansha-allah even do she had tight shuuko, it was easy to see her body shapes. I am not use to sit in front of a girl and just talk forever, am used to only 10 or 20 mins talking, and the rest kissing and playing around.

sitting before her was not easy for me, because i had all kind of nasty thoughts about her, but i remained patient instead. it was the worst date of my life we talked in a coffe bar like 3-4 hours. while we where talking she told me that she do not like to be kissed, come near boys, and no body contacts with them. after that day she never called me, i thought did i do something wrong?

I meet the same girl 10 months later, I asked for her phone nr again, and she gave it to me, then i called her, and asked her out Again, this time not coffebar or public areas. but behind the Apartment, this time, i came stoned on weed, iscold, and careless. i just said 3-4 Words, then start kissing her wild, then she started to kiss me back. the rest was history. she called me everyday, and asked if we can see each other. the situation changed


1: the problem is when she tells you, no man can touch my body it Means yes you can do whatever you want. but only you.

2: somali girls like to play sheeihkad, don't ever believe in that, and be yourself, say whatever you wanna say, and do to her what ever you wanna do to her.

3: somali girls Again act grown up, they love playful boys and playing around with them


4: All in all never take her serious, just read her body language. :up:
I agree with sophisticate, she's conflicted.

Walaal, don't judge all Somali girls based on one you dealt with. When I say no, I mean it. If anyone disrespects that, they are violating my space and rights to my body. Thus they will incur my wrath (will file a harassment complaint if needed) as well as wronging their own soul. I don't play sheikhad - because I'm not a hijabi, some might think I'm one of those party girls but I've never partied, drank, dated, or any of that. But I will f*** someone up for "doing whatever they wanna" to me. And then I'll have my brothers, uncles, cousins, father, and then the police come after them.

Basically - no to everything you said. If you don't respect "no" from a woman and do whatever you want to her, you are sexually harassing her. Honestly, this whole post is disturbing. Would you want someone to do whatever they want to your mother? To not respect her saying no? I'm sure the answer is no. Girls are diverse, we're not all the same. Even if you meet a few who seem confused, don't try to manipulate or force them into anything. That is something you will remember and I promise you will regret if you ever have daughters, God willing, or nieces. You will pray that no one treats them the way you treated women. Those girls will always remember you in a few years as one of the worst people they've met, since you took advantage of them and used them. And do you really want to be that person? You're young and naive. But don't be ignorant. This life is fleeting. Don't soil your soul beyond imagine for such little, shallow, vile pleasure in this world. On top of that, you could be looking at a future of possibly horrible consequences (ie. pregnancies, bad reputation as a manipulator or even rapist, jail time, permanent record, etc). Don't do this to yourself.

People sometimes think that by messing around, it's the girl who is dirtied but the guys are just as dirtied. Don't do this to yourself. Remember the kind of adult you always wanted to grow up into when you were four, six, or eight. Is that who you wanted to be? Would your six year old self be ashamed to meet the present you? Shape yourself to be someone you can be proud of being, on the inside out.
:clap: Hands Down sister, this is a beautiful post from the Heart.. this is the best post, i ever read in my life. :up:

The problem is, if i respect them and behave myself, they will view me as Farax, WHO is desparate after her, and she will dislike me. I know this for sure, and this is something many of my friends suffer from


But i use the law: 4 commendments, i believe it Works, so that i can have succes with them and come closer.
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Bro, don't be ruled by the man downstairs; he's in a lower spiritual plain of existence and will likely screw you over. Like CR eloquently said there are ramifications to every action. You might think you scored, but what if herpes or clap comes knocking at your chamber door?

About the dark side, some of these sisters don't know what they want and suffer from regret afterwards. Save yourself and your soul the trouble by leaving them alone. Because you aren't good for them and they aren't good you. Plus they have fooled themselves into thinking you can provide security outside of matrimony. You are young and based on assumptions you don't seem like you'll settle down any time soon. Could be wrong?
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sophisticate wrote:Bro, don't be ruled by the man downstairs; he's in a lower spiritual plain of existence and will likely screw you over. Like CR eloquently said there are ramifications to every action. You might think you scored, but what if herpes or clap comes knocking at your chamber door?

About the dark side, some of these sisters don't know what they want and suffer from regret afterwards. Save yourself and your soul the trouble by leaving them alone. Because you aren't good for them and they aren't good you. Plus they have fooled themselves into thinking you can provide security outside of matrimony. You are young and based on assumptions you don't seem like you'll settle down any time soon. Could be wrong?
am not Young, and my reasoning is not based upon assumptions but only facts. how old are you?
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You are capable of making rational choices and reasonable decisions. I was not questioning that. I said I am assuming that you are not at a stage in your life where you want to settle down (I could be totally off base). I know you are an adult and I have no sway/influence over you and your actions. I just would never dispense advice to someone that I wouldn't give to my brother.

I'm 27.
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sophisticate wrote:You are capable of making rational choices and reasonable decisions. I was not questioning that. I said I am assuming that you are not at a stage in your life where you want to settle down (I could be totally off base). I know you are an adult and I have no sway/influence over you and your actions. I just would never dispense advice to someone that I wouldn't give to my brother.

I'm 27.
Thank u. i like the advice u and the other sister cushtic posted. i think i will settle Down from now on, just marry, and move forward with life. and treat my wife as a true Queen. I really do like women in general, to just be around them. they were created from a bone close to mans Heart. its natural thing to care for them. they are truly the diamonds of this World..

speciale you and sister cushtic :up:
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Marlboro20 wrote: :clap: Hands Down sister, this is a beautiful post from the Heart.. this is the best post, i ever read in my life. :up:

The problem is, if i respect them and behave myself, they will view me as Farax, WHO is desparate after her, and she will dislike me. I know this for sure, and this is something many of my friends suffer from


But i use the law: 4 commendments, i believe it Works, so that i can have succes with them and come closer.
I can understand not showing entirely how you feel about her so soon while still getting to know her but disrespecting her isn't a good alternative. And do you really want to be with the type of woman who dislikes the kind and good side of you? I think that it's ideal to have someone in your life who brings out the best in you and helps you in your personal growth and journey in life, not someone who makes you fall into sin and a bad path. In short, I think quality over ease of access is the best way to go about relationships.
Marlboro20 wrote:Thank u. i like the advice u and the other sister cushtic posted. i think i will settle Down from now on, just marry, and move forward with life. and treat my wife as a true Queen. I really do like women in general, to just be around them. they were created from a bone close to mans Heart. its natural thing to care for them. they are truly the diamonds of this World..

speciale you and sister cushtic :up:
I'm very, very happy to read this, walaal. May you find a woman who is pure and pious and have be blessed together in this life and the next, inshaa Allah. Just don't rush into marriage, lol.
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I learned long time ago aslong as u take the awkwardness out of the situation (by not being direct or asking questions) a lot will go ur way :lol:
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I agree with the first point from past experience :)
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