Keeping up.. The struggle

[Ladyyonelove]

So lately I have been having problems & those problems consist of money.

My issue is never about not having money (alhamdullah) but the strain comes from having a soft heart for people in need of money such as close friends. I am always willing to go the extra mile to lend them a couple of 20's hell even 100's but when roles are reversed there is no way of getting in touch with them...

This brings about my second issue - trust - .
Everyone who is close with me knows that to me money is nothing. Just a piece of paper that signifies your status in life & because of that I do not value the dollar so when the time comes a friend is in need ill give him/her my last penny need it be & only Allah knows I never ask for it back laakin - when it comes to me being in a situation where I do not have money and go out of my way to even use my credit card to fix your situation I TRUST you'll do the same if need it be I am stuck with no money.

Anywho moral of this post is that I need to A) stop being other people's banker & B) reduce 2 credit cards to just plain old 1.

[SecretAgent]

Lool u got hustled b!tch my motto is money over everything don't lend don't ask simply rules I follow everyday

[Individual]

[Sheikh Mustafa]

Abaayo,

The Secret is that, do not expect anything back. Whatever you give, give it with Sadaqa Niya not hooking someone up. Aniga I never hook anyone up. I give it as sadaqa.

[BlackVelvet]

Learn to say no. And like it was said, if you are going to give, let it be sadaqa and only what you wouldn't mind not having back. Asking for money to be returned is awkward at best

[hydrogen]

I have this problem too, giving the money is not an issue - but I feel uncomfortable when I feel like I have to ask the same person who I gave money to unconditionally when I'm low on money in a specific situation where they can witness the fact that I'm low money. If the roles were reversed, I, without hesitation would say "here, pay me back another time" to save us both from the embarrassment or whatever. But this one time a friend was just standing there awkwardley am I'm just thinking, like ... hello???? are u gonna help me out or what

[Basra-]

Mohammed, I agree. You should STOP using your credit cards, you STOP buying sex, and start loosing weight. In return, u will get self worth, which will make people think twice before they assume u r desperate enough to allow them to scheme u, via always lending them money of course. Not to mention u will pay your student loan in no time. Good luck.

[Ladyyonelove]

I'm not referring to when I give money out of sadaqa I'm referring to when I have no money and I give you my last bit in return you just pay me back later ? Simple lol and as far as it goes with giving money please do not underestimate me I do not just give money out to anyone nope anyone I am close with yes. It's never about getting hussled folks anywho it's embarrassing asking money back lol that's why I avoid it and let them come to it on their own if not keep it lol

[Marques]

Ladyyonelove, are you in financial distress walal? Payday was just yday for me, i'm here if you need me.

[hydrogen]

Ladyyonelove, are you in financial distress walal? Payday was just yday for me, i'm here if you need me.

[SecretAgent]

Ladyyonelove, are you in financial distress walal? Payday was just yday for me, i'm here if you need me.

Dude she's ayr all ayr r rich she's lyin

[saacJabshee]

I only give friends what am willing to lose and forget about. You should try that from now on

[Marques]

Ladyyonelove, are you in financial distress walal? Payday was just yday for me, i'm here if you need me.

Dude she's ayr all ayr r rich she's lyin

I love this guy. With nearly no regards to punctuality, he will make his point no matter how informal it looks.

If she's ayr i can be her Sacad

[hydrogen]

I only give friends what am willing to lose and forget about. You should try that from now on

That's not the theme of this thread. The theme is, what if your friends never give you in return what they're willing to "lose and forget"?

[saacJabshee]

I only give friends what am willing to lose and forget about. You should try that from now on

That's not the theme of this thread. The theme is, what if your friends never give you in return what they're willing to "lose and forget"?

then you either ask or put up with. dont bring up how you always give money though