The 50/50 Generation.

[MissFiora]

I've been entertaining a lot of suitors as of late, because the ticking of my biological clock is getting louder. As most of you are aware the courtship process involves sharing ideas about what makes a good spouse and what an ideal marriage looks like. Now, based on a small sample ( my suitors) I have to say, my Somali brothers have lost the plot.

Over Moroccan couscous I had a brother ask me with a straight face "why should I invest in you?" ( Mind you this was our first date). Another brother informed me that he wants his wife to work, she has no choice in the matter and that everything in the marriage will be 50/50. I was also put on notice that this 50/50 rule is also applied during the courtship phase, and that it didn't just apply to money but also who initiates dates, who calls who etc.

Thanks to the societies we live in, we have this 'what can you do for me?' mentality and approach to relationships and marriage. I am an old fashion gal I believe women and men have different roles. We all need to find out what our job descriptions entails, we also need to focus on fulfilling the obligations to others before we start demanding that they fulfill ours.

Allah says: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah al-Nisâ’: 34]

To the men you are our protectors and maintainers, as women our job is to serve and be loyal to you.

I say we ditch the 50/50 approach ...scorekeeping? ain't nobody got time fo' dat!, lets us all work towards this:

And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." [Sûrah Rûm: 21]

[Substance]

Society have brainwashed them. You need a real man; pm me.

[garoweboy]

Yes sister lets work together as one happy family. Do you date guys that want more than one wife?

[Keyblade]

Over Moroccan couscous I had a brother ask me with a straight face "why should I invest in you?"

wow. Great thread, all the best in your search.

[many55]

Do not marry dark blue skin dinka guy , or an arab cos he will beat you , i speak arabic and i know
try to find fine somali guy , you will find them near the university .
my sister found fine somali guy in Queen Mary University in Mile End , Tower Hamlet , and she is happy and earn good money ,
my advice is enroll in college or university , and you will find good somali guy in the cafeteria and chat with him good luck sister

[Julkimi]

That's why you should move to Dubai, Marry a rich Arab guy, you will basically bathe in gold and diamonds. He might have an older wife and kids but who cares... Good luck.

[Tuushi]

Do not marry dark blue skin dinka guy , or an arab cos he will beat you , i speak arabic and i know
try to find fine somali guy , you will find them near the university .
my sister found fine somali guy in Queen Mary University in Mile End , Tower Hamlet , and she is happy and earn good money ,
my advice is enroll in college or university , and you will find good somali guy in the cafeteria and chat with him good luck sister

These tips.


Bonita.Do they guys ever ask u questions that straightforward?

[garoweboy]

That's why you should move to Dubai, Marry a rich Arab guy, you will basically bathe in gold and diamonds. He might have an older wife and kids but who cares... Good luck.

J you know damn well you ain't escaping the reer Mudug Farax that's coming your way.

[jalaaludin5]

wale xaliimos are confused bunch.

Allah says: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah al-Nisâ’: 34]

And i love how selective they are too in term of the deen.

Weren't you the one saying you aint ready to wear the hijab as if you had a notice of exactly when you will die.

and now that you approaching menopause you want to beat the brothers over the head with quotations that applies to your situation.

God bless you my sister

you made me laught

[AbdiJohnson]

Most Somali mothers work and pay the bills and raise their kids at the same time. Why can't you? Why should only the husband take care of the family financially? Two incomes should be coming into the house when you have children

You won't find a husband that will carry you. They want an independent woman, someone who will be able to take care of the household if he were to die or get injured or something.

If your kids see you just sitting at home, they will become lazy and unmotivated.


I am,

Abdi "Change your position" Johnson

[Substance]

That's why you should move to Dubai, Marry a rich Arab guy, you will basically bathe in gold and diamonds. He might have an older wife and kids but who cares... Good luck.

[many55]

most north african like moroccan and algerian have criminal records , they sell drugs in Finsbury Park in London , and most of them have fake French Passport , i love the Arabic language ,i speak arabic better than morocan , morocan dont speak arabic trust me sister they speak broken arabic , arabs in north africa are bad sister ,

[SultanOrder]

No such thing as old fashioned marriage when your husband doesn't bring in enough bread to support the family. You're going to work.

[many55]

miss bonita , i know you are very dark , and you can't make you kids very light , cos you think dark kids are not camera friendly , i know how you feel sister

[MissFiora]

Bonita.Do they guys ever ask u questions that straightforward? [/quote]




Without even batting an eyelash. Indho adeeg waa la dhameeyay