So--at work---I have an immediate lead who is an African American woman. Sweet lady but extremely lazy and dumb. But her boss, and my supervisor is white, who thinks exactly the same. That is one lady heifer! Yet---as a Somali I find myself compelled to be on her side. The white dude supervisor looks at the lady with absolute detest. The eyes gazing down, and the slight fawning of the upper lip in utter contempt is hilarious but at the same time sad. We go to staff meeting and she is asked-- do u ever anything to add? She says-- NO. I add something when it is absolutely crucial, but mostly I don't say anything just that I want the meeting to end soon. (but I can get away with that, I am not the lead) So, here Is my Connundrum--I feel compelled HELP her out, by giving tips to make herself look good. I mean-- our boss goes on and, on and, on praising my performance, and I don't like it. (too much attention yaaqee) I feel like she should get this accolade. She doesn't hate me for that-- because she knows I am as honest, and hard working as they come. Mess with me and,s she has a problem in her hands.
But I feel like giving her some ideas to bring it up in the meeting, help her out. But how can I do it without the racists white people in my group who absolutely hate her being in my case. (and for some reason, they hate her and like me, but I never allow them to be mean to her, at least in my face) Also, how can I help her out without her feeling an overwhelming sense of obligation where she is forced to bond with me. I can't handle that. That is where my great hesitation to help her out comes from. I am moved by heart to help her, yet my brain tells me if I do-- she will feel entirely grateful, then that will lead to lets have lunch, then--that will lead to lets hang out shopping, or God forbid ask me if have plans in the weekend so that we could hang out. Should I slip her anonymous typed memos for her to follow and sign-- Yours Santa Clause?
