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The moment that he marries her our society expects him to provide why can't we go Dutch on our bills. Why can't she get her beautification stuff herself. Why can't she get her hygienic things. Why can't she buy the grocery sometimes. Why can't she pay half of the apartment rent. Why can't she contribute to our savings account. Why can't she open the door herself at night even if we are suspecting an intruder.


This paralysis female patronization in our culture needs to end ..I demand it now...

The white men is lucky to have install a beautiful culture where he made it known that this marriege is equal responsibility partnership instead of the Somali way where a grown woman is taking care of as if she was a retard.

Men provide, Boys complain.

Phinks wrote:Men provide, Boys complain.

This is what'm talking abt..the self-entitlement ..

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:

Phinks wrote:Men provide, Boys complain.

This is what'm talking abt..the self-entitlement ..

So do you want women to take care of men? Well, I guess some couples can function perfectly with that kinda setup but you have the risk of her developing disrespect towards you in the future.

Different strokes Sxb.

Phinks wrote:Men provide, Boys complain.

Phinks wrote:Men provide, Boys complain.

Its because you don't take responsibility for your own girls and thats why they are going with other men then somalis.. Tdot is about to fall, and where is the national liberation front?

I'm not proposing much ladies ..I'm saying y'all want to be treated equal , you want him not to ask a lot, therefore I propose that we go Dutch on many things ..y'all can't have it both ways

lmao Jas, that gif hahaha

Menace, I wouldn't split things half-way, that's awkward. Bill comes for electricity and its $68.50. "Baby email transfer me your $34.25 ok." Most women work, so if it is a matter of splitting bills, I want be responsible for some things, he will be responsible for others.

For example, and not limited to: I will take care of my personal upkeep(hair, nails, skin, gym etc), and he will take me shopping. ^__^

If he is willing to go 50/50 on everything else like cleaning, cooking etc then I would be more than happy to do all of the above

That's a given. If men think we will help with bills but they won't help with the house....

Evol I agree with you, if she is working put some bills on the girls account and others on the man's account, but the cleaning is naag shaqodeed so is cooking etc, otherwise men can say no to lifting heavy things and taking you out to dinner.

Listen. Keep yourself in good shape. You being healthy shouldn't have anything to do with doing the laundry. People wana argue about everything loll haye get fat, enjoy the 4th calool and your clean home.

EvolSyawla wrote:I will take care of my personal upkeep(hair, nails, skin, gym etc), and he will take me shopping. ^__^

Adali wrote:Evol I agree with you, if she is working put some bills on the girls account and others on the man's account, but the cleaning is naag shaqodeed so is cooking etc, otherwise men can say no to lifting heavy things and taking you out to dinner.

What heavy shit are u lifting everyday? And taking me out to dinner?..if i make my own money and his ass isn't doing ish that i dont need him to take me out to dinner.
something is seriously wrong with some of the mentality of snet men or should i say boys? ...are u married or are u looking for another mother?