How do your relationships end?

[BlackVelvet]

I don't mean romantic per se but your relationships with people.


Sometimes with friends you drift apart like those from school and other times your relationship with a person ends such that it's just never the same again - either you don't speak to each other or you move from whatever you were to strictly hi and bye.


But how does it happen? Has it even ever happened? Is there a pattern with each time it's happened?

[Marques]

For the most part it's drifting off.

I'm currently trying to drop a "friend", the infamous friend who invited me to his house recently whereupon i made a thread about his shitty hospitality. He is clingy af and that just lookd gay on a guy.

[YummyMummy]

Clearly not done with relationship threads then

Depends on what occurred. In general I'm the kind to walk away slowly & move on with life. The person gets the message. Unless there's unfinished business (e.g. they owe you money) where you need to sit down and resolve things, I move on with my life. No need for drama.

Marques: you're doing the right thing. Waxna kuuma kordhinayo. Cut all ties off. What have you got to lose?

[Shirib]

Kinda just drift away, get busy with other stuff, life takes you on different paths

[BlackVelvet]

I don't see that natural drifting apart as ending a relationship (unless you're cutting the person off on purpose like YM). Sometimes you have friends you haven't spoken to in years and you just pick up where you left off.


lol@ Marq, red signs all over


If I'm ending a relationship it tends to end on one random day - the straw that broke the camel's back type of thing. We were okay...ish and I was trying to work at it/give them space/find a compromise then they do something and it's like

[BlackVelvet]

Clearly not done with relationship threads then

It's not the same kinda thing, not strictly romance

[Julkimi]

I still keep in touch with all the people I have formed a friendship with. Except for one particular person, I slowly cut ties with her. I never answered her texts, didnt call her back abd basically avoided her until she got the drift. I don't need negative nancy in my life. Now we just say hi and bye to each other when ever we see each other at formal gatherings.

[1nemansquad]

i just ended a relationship just a night ago, i think my reason is i lost the ability to get attached to people..

[BlackVelvet]

1ne InshaAllah that will change

[1nemansquad]

inn shaa allah, its not a laughing matter but sometimes i catch myself subconsciously attempting to sabotage a relationship without me even knowing about it and i laugh; that is because I worked so hard to detach myself from the past that its almost impossible to reverse it back.

[Amira143]

I don't think I end relationships but rather grow apart from some relations and that causes it to either breakdown due zero communication or its very limited Thats life I guess

[BlackVelvet]

1ne that's natural right, to be careful and defensive...just in case but hopefully you'll meet someone worth taking that risk for inshaAllah



Amira if you're not doing consciously then yeah that's just life

[zulaika]

something usually happens that ends the relationship. With friends I don't consider drifting apart as some suggested here as means to end, if u see them again, you'll pick from there, depending on how close u were back then. Ending a friendship usually entails something hurtful that they did to u. I've ended friendship with someone before because of what they did to me, and I've had a friend drop me for what I did..it's all good, keep it moving.

As for romantic relationship, it can end ugly or amicably.. I've been through both.

[YummyMummy]

^ With friends & relationships that break down, moving on is a better thing than fighting for it, especially where that's been tried & tested before but failed, imo. I have a core groups of girlfriends where we catch up every 2-3 months, sorta when I'm on my half-term or termly holidays lol. No contact ion between but we pick up wherever we left off. That's because it's all positive.

[Casanova25]

I cut my entire childhood friends and I always use to hang out with them since like we were 7-8 years old, but I had to cut them 10 months ago because they were clearly on the wrong path. Drinkin, partying, drivin fast cars, violating ppl and small crimes here and there basically life without laws except there law plus jail in and out.

May Allah guide them but Alhamduillah I found new friends from the mosque who are all religious and I'm starting to adapt to the new life style even thou it is tough in the beginning.