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I grew up thinking divorce didn't exist in our community, because I only ever saw married couples. Never heard of divorce with Somalis, and infact thought it was so taboo that, well, you'd be ostracised if you did. Growing up and meeting more Somalis changed my perspective completely - lol Especially after going to Djibouti! (No offense Djiboutians)

Now....I am very sad to hear that my belief that Somali men didn't have it in their nature to physically beat their wives has been changed as well - broken front teeth, broken bones.... I am hearing many stories of women who are either dealing with a husband who beats them, or have divorced because of it. I thought that was an arab problem?

Is this a new problem, or has this always just been kept under the rug?

You should come and speak to uk social workers and medical practitioners. Anytime there is a somali related domestic abuse case they will ask you if the man has been chewing "cat".

So it's only when they're chewing? I doubt that.

It is just a tough love, our way of showing appreciation. Some women believe, if the husband doesn't beat them up once or twice every year. They assume he either has another wife or doesn't love them anymore. Occasionally Somali women love the WWE role play and the make sex that comes after it

idk from my experience I noticed amongst Somalis usually the husband is the naag of the relationship and the wife runs everything. Atleast thats my observation of Somalis in Ontario. My real dad was the opposite unfortunately and used to abuse my mom. Its really sad wallahi, seeing ur parents fight like that especially if the kid is young. Children don't deserve to be exposed to that typa shit.

No.i was just highlighting that it happens.i have seen a farah get his head smashed in with a budh hy his wife though.He was a nice guy as well-came to my house humble and dignified when he had a massive gash on his head.

i kno 3 abusive husbands here

but evryone say hush hush dont talk about it. its ceeeeeb

Do you know what abuse is? It's not something to joke about Octagon.

Fade, yea. It's incredible and heartbreaking. I can't imagine not being able to interfere with your hooyo being combo'ed. I'm sorry.

Baasto, Really? How often do you come into contact with an abused husband? Ratio wise? Poor guy.

Qaxooti, Why is it ceeb though? In this most recent case, all the elders are saying they shouldn't be divorced, 'they'll work it out'. How do you work out your missing front teeth? The children's traumatization? When did we become okay with a wife being beaten by her husband?
3 here as in Snet? I would actually advocate naming and shaming - and then banning.

These Somalis have no place in our society.

Only bytch nyggas beat their woman, if our sister was the victim of abuse....we'd put that nygga in a coma.

^^^

By the way, what good is qabiil when they don't do anything for you? I imagine if all the odeyal were so protective of their honor, they'd destroy any man who touched their daughters. What's this 'hashiis' nonsense? 'xaal'?

Advo, good for you. I'd join you, sister or not.

no, 3 somali couples in my town in america


its ceeeeeb beacuz somali dont talk about shame ting like that
the tol say she desrved it beacuz she was bad wife anywayz
or beacuz its his right as husband to do what he wants. no interference



qaxooti

I think what octagon said there are some truth to that. Some women who are continuosly abused go against their families wishes of her cutting ties with the nigger by taking the nigger back. So what does that say? that they are ok with the violence inflicted upon them or they being manipulated. But, fortunately it's very few cases of abusive men within our community and most of which take drugs, or under the influence when carrying out the acts of violence.

I hear it now and than about how abusive Somali men are. I never seen my parents, family members or friends abuse their wive, girlfriends, daughters.
I am not naive abuse does take place in the Somali community. But is it an epidemic or does it happen more often than any other community i doubt it.
Do we need to have community meeting with Somali channel, Horn cable, and Universal covering it. NO!
Somalis are not monolithic.

Unfortunately it does happen which is really sad.
I think women who happen to find themselves in these situations need to learn to enable themselves to leave at the first sign of domestic abuse whether it is physical or psychological especially when children are involved. In any case, a man who beats on his wife is weak and pathetic.



May Allah Strike down dead the man who beats on his wife.. That shit rubs me the wrong way. Nacala.

Ladi Tyler Perry brainwash u. Sumtimes the women startz it.