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marrying back Home or the West?

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Well since we're on the topic of marriage lately. And I'm at that point In my life where I'm contemplating settling down and having a wife and im financially able to do so. Although I haven't found my significant other yet.

Having seen friends and families relationships sour in the west I've got mixed feelings . I've been living here in the motherland for a couple years now and have a business and also a villa. But my command of the mother language is still rudimentary at best. Parents are actively seeking a wife for me. I've turned down a couple offers but eventually I'll be persuaded.

There's some beautiful girls here but effective communication is also important. Would you do it and either one of you learn the others language or do you prefer marrying a westerner whom you have more in common.
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Re: marrying back Home or the West?

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It depends on you really : Do you want :

- a career women who works, challenges you and sometimes have lunch or dinner with her co-workers , and when things go sour, you be slapped with child support and bac madow waiting you outside on those nights you show up late. And the 50/50 thing

or

miskiin women who is 100% dependent on you, takes your orders, cleans cooks and washes your clothes and if things go sour, you can easily leave her for another without worrying about child support
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I'd strongly suggest a Somali girl from the West, because she'll understand you much better than a girl from back home. And this is the honest-to-god truth. All of the little jokes, style of speech, and little things won't be understood by a local Somali girl. But a girl from the West could understand you much more easily. And there are plenty of nice, dependable Somali girls from the West who love Somalia and who often relocate to East Africa or the Middle East. There are plenty of educated Somali women from the West who now reside in Dubai, Kuwait, Qatar, Djibouti, Kenya, etc.

These women are much closer to their Somali culture, they're educated and make money, and you'd be able to understand them and get along with them much better. Don't believe the generalizations about Somali girls from the West. Only some of them are rude. Not all of them
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Marrying from the west of the diaspora is much better. :up:

Those xalimoo's back home have a bizarre mentality. (and they are very metalistic too).
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Rambie wrote:Marrying from the west of the diaspora is much better. :up:

Those xalimoo's back home have a bizarre mentality. (and they are very metalistic too).
Tell me about it. Many of them assume because you're from the West, that you must be super-rich. And then they start to ask you for unreasonable things like 10 iPhones, 5 laptops, and 5 big-screen TV's for her and all her cousins. And they make these requests with a straight-face.

They have NO IDEA what's going on. NO IDEA
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luuqada hooyo mise midkalaba waxba kuu tari meyso haduu fahamka macnihiisa kaaga xiran yahay isku luuqad in leysla yaqaano.
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Girls back home are only interested in 1 thing. Dhoof.
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BlackRain wrote:It depends on you really : Do you want :

- a career women who works, challenges you and sometimes have lunch or dinner with her co-workers , and when things go sour, you be slapped with child support and bac madow waiting you outside on those nights you show up late. And the 50/50 thing

or

miskiin women who is 100% dependent on you, takes your orders, cleans cooks and washes your clothes and if things go sour, you can easily leave her for another without worrying about child support
The latter option will only go according to plan as long as you don't bring her in the West.
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BlackRain wrote:It depends on you really : Do you want :

- a career women who works, challenges you and sometimes have lunch or dinner with her co-workers , and when t4hings go sour, you be slapped with child support and bac madow waiting you outside on those nights you show up late. And the 50/50 thing

or

miskiin women who is 100% dependent on you, takes your orders, cleans cooks and washes your clothes and if things go sour, you can easily leave her for another without worrying about child support
Not every girl in the West is a career woman, and not every girl back home is dependent.
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What you need to do is determine what type of wife you want. The two come from different backgrounds. It's either one that understands you and possibly is a feminist vs a women that is shy/modest and submissive. Our women in the west are looked down upon for marriage. I think you would be able to find someone you're compatible with. But if your looking to settle down back home and never come back to the west you might want to marry a local.
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All I have to say about the ones back home is...FGM. I rest my case.
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The choice is yours. I find it fascinating that it is a rarity for Somali womenfolk from the west to marry men from back home. I'm reminded of those fb messages I used to get from fellows back home, they claim to be smitten for no reason all because they want a new bassabort. From what I've noticed all these dudes want is a 2 for 1 deal - to be American iyo Canadian. :down: However, the opposite pairing appears to work. Aren't women pegged as after 'money' everywhere in the world. It's not something new or limited to back home. We know by virtue of a ridiculous asking price for the mehr. It would be more financially wise to get a sister from back home, or a frugal one from the west. It's up to you. :lol:
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Mid jilicsan oo bah dilaan, fed iyo haranti sii fiican qaadan karta :lawd:
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Jeffo wrote:Mid jilicsan oo bah dilaan, fer iyo haranti sii fiican qaadan karta :lawd:
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Re: marrying back Home or the West?

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SooMaal11 wrote:What you need to do is determine what type of wife you want. The two come from different backgrounds. It's either one that understands you and possibly is a feminist vs a women that is shy/modest and submissive. Our women in the west are looked down upon for marriage. I think you would be able to find someone you're compatible with. But if your looking to settle down back home and never come back to the west you might want to marry a local.
It makes MUCH more sense for a Somali man from the West to marry a Somali woman who's also from the West. They would be far more compatible, and they could build a life together as a married couple.

Too many misguided Somali men view their women as commodities, and look for "submissive" and "docile" women who could perform certain tasks for them...instead of an actual WIFE who you can share your life with.
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