Would you put off having kids until your 30's?

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:10 pm

Whatever your personal reasons may be, either because you want a certain number of years experience before you take maternity leave or because you want to know the guy for X number of years before you get married or be married for X long before you try for kids....

If you found yourself in the situation where doing everything you wanted and having kids was not possible within your time frame, would you put off the kids part?

If something has to give, which part of the equation would be it?

Lillaahiya · Post by **Lillaahiya** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:15 pm

I'm giving myself a 10 year window starting this year to have as many kids as possible..and I'm not married. I don't want to have kids after 35. Being a young mom >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:28 pm

Lillaahiya wrote:I'm giving myself a 10 year window starting this year to have as many kids as possible..and I'm not married. I don't want to have kids after 35. Being a young mom >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Agree

Lakin what happens if as the years creep on you haven't found the guy you picture in your head? Do you compromise on the guy or on 35?

TheMailMan · Post by **TheMailMan** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:40 pm

I'm gonna attempt to start my own Qabiil with it's own militia, so it's my Somali patriotic duty to have as many children as possible.....quality upbringing be damned.

xiimaaya · Post by **xiimaaya** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:42 pm

29 bold and got no kids and also a truck driver. My chances of wifein a beautiful one is zero. But I plan on going to bengladish to get me beautiful Desi wife.

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:51 pm

xiimaaya wrote: 29 bold and got no kids and also a truck driver. My chances of wifein a beautiful one is zero. But I plan on going to bengladish to get me beautiful Desi wife.

As a guy how much does the age you have kids at matter to you?

TheMailMan wrote:I'm gonna attempt to start my own Qabiil with it's own militia, so it's my Somali patriotic duty to have as many children as possible.....quality upbringing be damned.

Chop chop, times a wasting marka, you know they need 9 months to cook right

Post by **PLATINUUM** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 1:55 pm

Not having kids before my early 30s because i need to get my career afloat first. Hard out here for women as it is, not giving these men any reason to one up me. Also when i do have kids 2 is the max. might get married in my 20s though. But no kids until I'm ready.

xiimaaya · Post by **xiimaaya** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:03 pm

BlackVelvet wrote:
xiimaaya wrote: 29 bold and got no kids and also a truck driver. My chances of wifein a beautiful one is zero. But I plan on going to bengladish to get me beautiful Desi wife.

As a guy how much does the age you have kids at matter to you

It doesn't matter as long as I could produce sperm at 90. For -man age is not a factor.

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:11 pm

PLATINUUM wrote:Not having kids before my early 30s because i need to get my career afloat first. Hard out here for women as it is, not giving these men any reason to one up me. Also when i do have kids 2 is the max. might get married in my 20s though. But no kids until I'm ready.

If that was your plan from the get go then good on you

AbdiJohnson · Post by **AbdiJohnson** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:13 pm

A lady told me recently she spend $1000 a month per child on daycare. If you're going to go work you might as well get a live in nanny

I am,

Abdi Johnson

Present · Post by **Present** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:20 pm

Only Allah knows, but I prefer to have them waay before I'm 30 so I can space them out evenly

BlackVelvet · Post by **BlackVelvet** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:23 pm

Present wrote:Only Allah knows, but I prefer to have them waay before I'm 30 so I can space them out evenly

How many would you like to have?

AbdiJohnson wrote:A lady told me recently she spend $1000 a month per child on daycare. If you're going to go work you might as well get a live in nanny

I am,

Abdi Johnson

Thinking about the financial implications can be a headache before you've even had them

Post by **PLATINUUM** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:25 pm

@abdiJ id let them stay with my dad and step mom instead of a nanny. or maybe other family members. why get a nanny when you have family

Sophisticate · Post by **Sophisticate** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:27 pm

30 is only a jump hop and a skip away. Especially if you are in your late 20s.

I told myself I probably wouldn't get married until then Insha'Allah.

Present · Post by **Present** » Sat Mar 14, 2015 2:29 pm

BlackVelvet wrote:
Present wrote:Only Allah knows, but I prefer to have them waay before I'm 30 so I can space them out evenly
How many would you like to have?

AbdiJohnson wrote:A lady told me recently she spend $1000 a month per child on daycare. If you're going to go work you might as well get a live in nanny

I am,

Abdi Johnson
Thinking about the financial implications can be a headache before you've even had them

I don't have a number tbh, but we all know most geeljires want 5 a side

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