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Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?
And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

This is hypothetical question so lets not presume I'm broken-hearted.

How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?
Any personal experiences will be appreciated.

A trip to Mr Singh's Off License and Maryam Jamac drown all sorrows.

Shit happens. Onto the next one. Waaxay jiljileeca

To unconvince what you convinced yourself of the person. To understand they are another human being despite their good qualities, that if you put an effort with an open mind, another opportunity better or similar might come along.

When we meet new person and we fall for them, we tend to place them above where they should be and that is normal in the first phase face of falling in love, but truth is, broken hearts get healed overtime. Just don't tell yourself there is no man as good as he is. May be some are -- Like me deadly blokes(joking).

I think best protection is to be grounded on principles that can not be negotiated and given up for anyone no matter who they are and were to you to begin with. It will suck for you if you are not willing to see that the man is just another human with all the imperfections and you made him seem super in your mind only. You can undo all that.

At the extremely express way of finding out that anybody else can just be as good, get on with a date, find new company instead of holding yourself hostage when the guy moved on and doesn't care about you.

Kapishe?

I'm currently recovering from a break up. Try and occupy urself so you don't dwell on things. And reminding yourself how awesome you also helps

Theguardian wrote:Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?
And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

This is hypothetical question so lets not presume I'm broken-hearted.

How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?
Any personal experiences will be appreciated.

Somalis?? How about how do "people" get over a broken heart? Why do u look or view the world in a Somali lens? I mean, seriously!



Anywayzzzzzz........ Get over it. Find another one. One persons Trash is another persons Waaasmo Macaan.

Basra- wrote:

Theguardian wrote:Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?
And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

This is hypothetical question so lets not presume I'm broken-hearted.

How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?
Any personal experiences will be appreciated.

Somalis?? How about how do "people" get over a broken heart? Why do u look or view the world in a Somali lens? I mean, seriously!



Anywayzzzzzz........ Get over it. Find another one. One persons Trash is another persons Waaasmo Macaan.

Because non Somalis-non Muslims people usually just get under another person - bit generalisation maybe but there is enough advice available on how they do it.
So I want to know the Somalis perspective on broken heart.
And not every body want to be just anyone's trash.

MissFiora wrote:I'm currently recovering from a break up. Try and occupy urself so you don't dwell on things. And reminding yourself how awesome you also helps

I'm sorry for your heartache sis...

Telling yourself how "awesome" you're is not helpful when you know the person you loved doesn't think so is it?

Theguardian wrote:Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?

Focus on your hobbies, keep yourself busy, binge watch tv shows, and voila, you just moved on with your life...well sort of.

Theguardian wrote: And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

Oh young grasshopper I will you piece of advice, never give a fuck about what other people think of you, that's asking for depression. Do you know what helps me not give a fuck? Music. Keep your ipod close, listen to music and ignore the world.

Theguardian wrote:
How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?

It depends on individuals not the ethnicity.

AgentOfChaos wrote:

Theguardian wrote:Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?

Focus on your hobbies, keep yourself busy, binge watch tv shows, and voila, you just moved on with your life...well sort of.

Theguardian wrote: And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

Oh young grasshopper I will you piece of advice, never give a fuck about what other people think of you, that's asking for depression. Do you know what helps me not give a fuck? Music. Keep your ipod close, listen to music and ignore the world.

Theguardian wrote:
How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?

It depends on individuals not the ethnicity.

Who knew ---u were messed up because u were dumped many times!!!



Theguardian


I am sorry u were dumbed.

QuantumSatis wrote:To unconvince what you convinced yourself of the person. To understand they are another human being despite their good qualities, that if you put an effort with an open mind, another opportunity better or similar might come along.

When we meet new person and we fall for them, we tend to place them above where they should be and that is normal in the first phase face of falling in love, but truth is, broken hearts get healed overtime. Just don't tell yourself there is no man as good as he is. May be some are -- Like me deadly blokes(joking).

I think best protection is to be grounded on principles that can not be negotiated and given up for anyone no matter who they are and were to you to begin with. It will suck for you if you are not willing to see that the man is just another human with all the imperfections and you made him seem super in your mind only. You can undo all that.

At the extremely express way of finding out that anybody else can just be as good, get on with a date, find new company instead of holding yourself hostage when the guy moved on and doesn't care about you.

Kapishe?

What if they are so great, so real and so perfect even with their imperfection that it is impossible to find anyone who measure up to them?
What if you never find anyone that you're attract to as much.. Do you just settle?

Theguardian wrote:

QuantumSatis wrote:To unconvince what you convinced yourself of the person. To understand they are another human being despite their good qualities, that if you put an effort with an open mind, another opportunity better or similar might come along.

When we meet new person and we fall for them, we tend to place them above where they should be and that is normal in the first phase face of falling in love, but truth is, broken hearts get healed overtime. Just don't tell yourself there is no man as good as he is. May be some are -- Like me deadly blokes(joking).

I think best protection is to be grounded on principles that can not be negotiated and given up for anyone no matter who they are and were to you to begin with. It will suck for you if you are not willing to see that the man is just another human with all the imperfections and you made him seem super in your mind only. You can undo all that.

At the extremely express way of finding out that anybody else can just be as good, get on with a date, find new company instead of holding yourself hostage when the guy moved on and doesn't care about you.

Kapishe?

What if they are so great, so real and so perfect even with their imperfection that it is impossible to find anyone who measure up to them?
What if you never find anyone that you're attract to as much.. Do you just settle?

Whoever it is, they're not. You're the one putting them on the pedestal, making then so "perfect".

AgentOfChaos wrote:

Theguardian wrote:Say you got dumped or rejected by the one that you loved what would you do?

Focus on your hobbies, keep yourself busy, binge watch tv shows, and voila, you just moved on with your life...well sort of.

Theguardian wrote: And avoiding them was not optional because you either live near each other or work together.. Where you would probably see each once or more a week.
What would you guys do?

Oh young grasshopper I will you piece of advice, never give a fuck about what other people think of you, that's asking for depression. Do you know what helps me not give a fuck? Music. Keep your ipod close, listen to music and ignore the world.

Theguardian wrote:
How do Somalis get over broken heart generally?

It depends on individuals not the ethnicity.

Theguardian wrote: What if they are so great, so real and so perfect even with their imperfection that it is impossible to find anyone who measure up to them?
What if you never find anyone that you're attract to as much.. Do you just settle?

I am pragmatic and hopeful. There is no finality to good things in life and something out there can be equal or better. If your value as a woman and what you contributed to the relationship was great, then the loss is not one sided when the relationship ended no matter how it ended. The man must feel the pain too. And if he didn't feel any loss not having you around, that is the best excuse you have to move the f-u-c-k on Excuse my language.

If that is not the case, then spend your days convincing yourself how great he was, be sad, don't eat, miss on sleep, lose weight, lose your hair, spent your days sleeping longer, quit your job after you call in sick for days on end whilst the guy is out there having fun chasing another xaliimo.

That is going to be really a waste of your parent's upbringing, islaanimo and dhiig. Basically, where is your dhiig waryaa? LOL.


I understand love isn't simple, and it takes time to get over someone if you loved them genuinely and they made you happy, but reality is, You are just as important as the other person in the past relationship. And there is no unique individual out there. Everyone is good at something. you just have to try someone new and take it from there instead of wasting away in sadness nobody else shares with you.

You put yourself first cause no one else will if you don't.

Theguardian wrote:

MissFiora wrote:I'm currently recovering from a break up. Try and occupy urself so you don't dwell on things. And reminding yourself how awesome you also helps

I'm sorry for your heartache sis...

Telling yourself how "awesome" you're is not helpful when you know the person you loved doesn't think so is it?

Hunno u don't need anyone to validate how awesome u are, as long as you know ..you're good. And don'feel sorry for me I have a big butt and a beautiful smile I'll manage.