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How many successful arranged marriages do you know? I know some in my family nd they seem happily married

I know everybody says I want to marry someone I love but there's no love before marriage! You can't really love someone if you havnt lived with them, you can like them but true love comes after marriage

So would you consider arranged marriage? If not why?

i have no clue if they happy or not but almost every one i know married arranged.

chelsea, hada wa la 3asriyeyey, its arranged first to meet but they decided to marry.

^^ sheikh when I say arranged I mean someone you have dated briefly but you arnt in "love" with them not some one you havnt seen or talk before meherka

lol that is what i meant 3asriyeeyey.

first, to check the family (good) , check her, ask around, then meet un their house and talk breifly. hada sida ba la isku goursada.

dating years, is waste of time and risky to cross a line.

Arranged marriage way fiican tahay laakin dadka dhan kuma haboona.

Waqtigan la joogo qofka waad baran karta adigu xitaa la kulmin..thanks to FB and skype.

Alhamdulila all my screws are screwed together correctly and I'm fully capable of meeting someone on my own so no, personally I wouldn't go for something like that.

salool wrote:Arranged marriage way fiican tahay laakin dadka dhan kuma haboona.

Waqtigan la joogo qofka waad baran karta adigu xitaa la kulmin..thanks to FB and skype.

Imisaad facebook ka dhex kalumaysatay markii Aad single ka ahayd

The short time i had Fb..my friend list was only family and never had any pics on my profile.Mesha maba aamini jirin dadka ku jira.Adna waxaad ka hadleysa kaluumaysi

There are 3 groups of people who go for arrange marriage:
1) those running out of time - its marriage out of convenience.
2)Adolescence/horney teenagers from religiously conservative families - where they families fear they might commit sin or want to them fulfil "half of their deen" - this marriage doe not end well - reason for many divorces seen too many I wish i hadn't.

I rather go through years of heartache or be alone than to be married out of conveniences or to used by male bunny boiler.
3) genuine marriage which I admire is where the male or female sees someone they like and they go to the family or someone close to them to ask if they are interested; those are actually following the sunnah and marrying someone they actually sought after instead of letting their family do all the hard work.

Theguardian wrote:There are 3 groups of people who go for arrange marriage:
1) those running out of time - its marriage out of convenience.
2)Adolescence/horney teenagers from religiously conservative families - where they families fear they might commit sin or want to them fulfil "half of their deen" - this marriage doe not end well - reason for many divorces seen too many I wish i hadn't.

I rather go through years of heartache or be alone than to be married out of conveniences or to used by male bunny boiler.
3) genuine marriage which I admire is where the male or female sees someone they like and they go to the family or someone close to them to ask if they are interested; those are actually following the sunnah and marrying someone they actually sought after instead of letting their family do all the hard work.

How are you holding up sis? How was ur frist day back at work?

Salool, hada kalumayse badan ayaa ku dhaafay

Don't people understand that an arrange marriage is when you are introduced to someone? :-s like major calaf doon style

chelseaforever wrote:

Theguardian wrote:There are 3 groups of people who go for arrange marriage:
1) those running out of time - its marriage out of convenience.
2)Adolescence/horney teenagers from religiously conservative families - where they families fear they might commit sin or want to them fulfil "half of their deen" - this marriage doe not end well - reason for many divorces seen too many I wish i hadn't.

I rather go through years of heartache or be alone than to be married out of conveniences or to used by male bunny boiler.
3) genuine marriage which I admire is where the male or female sees someone they like and they go to the family or someone close to them to ask if they are interested; those are actually following the sunnah and marrying someone they actually sought after instead of letting their family do all the hard work.

How are you holding up sis? How was ur frist day back ay work?

Alhamdulillah brother - nothing changed.

At work- didn't see him and didn't ask anyone where he was or if he came to work - I asked my colleague/friend who knows about us not to tell me anything.

^^ good, hang in there sis

I lost faith in Arranged marriage when a mentality disabled man who could not used the bathroom because biyaha dhan buu dhulka kabuuxinaa was taken to Somalia and had arranged marriage. Everytime I think of arranged marriage, I think of that poor girl and what dhibaato led her to marry mentally challenged man. Anytime I hear arranged marriage, I think of gabar miskiin ah oo cuqubo laga galaayo. When i went to africa last year, 16-18 years old girls were being offered to me back and forth. Last time i checked, 16-18 year olds were calling me adeer. When did I become every teenage girl's mr. Justin bieber. I told them fiiriya akhiyaarta, I have been tarxiil from america and I am not going back. The word spread and non of them came back.