Some women are heartless pure evil!

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

so I privately took dance lessons for two years. But when I finally surprised her by taking her out to dance, she was unimpressed

[AgentOfChaos]

That scares the shit out of me. All those years, down the toilet.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

this is where it all went wrong ...

so I overthought everything and would end up making mistakes. And that’s what my marriage was like. I based all of my decisions on how my wife would respond.

[BVSNet]

Look at all those supportive comments from women


Women are such suckers. He got into the marriage with a boatload of insecurities and doubt. Even without hearing her side of the story you can see how his attitude sabotaged the marriage

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^^ i know, there's two sides to every story but if he did all these things she should have showed more naxariis

[BVSNet]

Would it have helped? She possibly did show it but he was too busy counting the ways that he wasn't good enough for her to notice

[YummyMummy]

I'm not sure BV. If you read till the end she explained her way or if the marriage as "you're a great father and a nice guy, just to boring". Occam's razor; maybe she really was just a grumpy cow.

[BVSNet]

YM is that heartless though? She was with him 20 something years and in that time it didn't occur to him to just be himself and stop basing his intetests and behaviours on her approval rate

Can you imagine living with a man who's constantly seeking your approval?

Not only does that sound boring it would be exhausting. She doesn't sound empathetic so probably not exhausting for her but garteeda hala siiyo the guy doesn't sound like a walk in the park

[YummyMummy]

I see your point, but it's more exhausting living for 28 years with a sour unhappy scrooge.

Marriage is different things to different people. If you aren't into Prince charming and just want compassion, understanding, stability and comfortable living, Nowt wrong with that.

[gegiroor]

I am not sure what the guy is complaining about. He afterall married a woman that he even had issues of getting along with before they even made that lifelong commitment. Usually, you make sure you're comfortable with that person before you commit yourself, but he knew there were issues before they even got married

Another point, they both thought by going to church, everything would be solved That is so childish in any standard! You see issues with the person that you about to marry, you either quit it or buy more time to figure that person out. They both ignored all signals that showed their incompatibilities, and here he is upset about what happened in all of those years

He is bragging about having a long sleep in his first day after the divorce. I doubt it. I think he can't get over her and get her out of his mind. Usually, when you divorce someone, you're done with that person and never look back unless of course you would love her or him (depending on your gender) to be back in your life. By talking about her, it is obvious he did not want the divorce but perhaps did not have a chance.

But then these couple got divorced after 28 years? If they live together for 28 years, I think there is something else that he is not telling. Perhaps he was no longer a man to her, she met a younger guy, and she got rid off him. Being a California girl - the home of liberalism - says a lot about her

[BVSNet]

Yeah nothing wrong with that. It just seems like he thought she wanted prince charming and was over compensating as a result

Sometimes two people make no sense together until you see the kids and realise it was their destiny for the two of them to become parents to that specific soul/souls child/children

[Sophisticate]

Like Harry Houdini he escaped the clutches of an emotional vampire, any longer and she would have sucked the life out of him prematurely. I see the glass as half-full. Dude is a survivor. A bad marriage can be health deleterious for anyone.