Why do some families have to be so inconsiderate?

[TheCadaanGuy]

A family of 4 visited us recently. Here's a story of what happened:

Firstly, they came to us without informing us beforehand. I don't mind if it's just a visit but they wanted to stay for few days. To make the matters worse, they were sleeping in some other family house beforehand and left even though they offered to let them to stay few more days so they can travel out of the city on pre-booked ticket.

Our house wasn't clean, so I cleaned it up whilst the family was in. They made some comments on lack of tidiness in the house while I was cleaning it.

Even though we're Somali speaking household, I'm the only one who doesn't speak Somali. This boy doesn't acknowledge that. Keeps speaking Somali to me knowing I won't understand what he says. He says he doesn't wanna speak English. I says to him, I won't even attempt to understand him or even acknowledge him if he speaks Somali to me. He gets pissed but speaks English to me afterwards.

So, night-time comes, I tell the boy go and sleep in either of her mother room. The mother comes to me saying he gotta sleep in my room saying he's big boy now. This little guy is only 13 years old. The other two daughters are in their own room.

Now, I have this boy in my room. No problem, he can sleep on floor but no, he keeps complaining saying it's too scary. So, I swap around.

Guess what? He plays around on his phone for few hours. ON FULL BRIGHTNESS. I can't literally sleep until around 2 or so in the morning. When I ask him to turn his phone off, he says wait as he gotta to check on few things. He was watching a film throughout. I know he's pissed but this pissed?

Being only non-mahram male in the house, I gotta be careful in where I go but there has to be limits to that. The two girls remove his hijab as soon as I leave the room even though I'll come back in few min, causing an embarrassment to me and them. It's like these girls hate wearing hijab. Even her mother asked if I can move around less. When my mother told me to fetch a knife from kitchen, the girls removed hijab for less than 30 sec and then put them again. Why not leave them on?

Their mother can't speak English good, so I occasionally ask one of their children to translate what I say. The girls does that without fuss. The boy always complains. Even if it's something important, he will not translate it. If there was a fire in kitchen, and I tell everyone to leave, this boy probably wouldn't tell her mother what I said.

In second night, my bro comes and sleep in this house. I tell him to sleep in my room so there's no space for the boy.

What did his mother say? She says he has to sleep in my room no matter what, forcing my bro to sleep on tiny couch downstairs. My mother disagrees but says nothing because the family is guest, we gotta treat them with a respect.

On third day, I stay in my room like I usually do for most of the day. This girl, aged 16 keeps coming in my room trying to start a conversation. I tell her off and nicely ask her to go away. After few times of coming in, her mother sees this, and blames me saying I gotta stop talking to her.

My mother finds out about this, she only hears that side of story and gets angry with me.

On last day, we all were in living room saying our good-byes. This girl makes it awkward by saying something in Somali about me, everyone looks at me. I said what - turns out this girl wanted me to come over. All this from less than 1 minute conversation cumulative we've had so far. Their mother gets visibly angry but says nothing.

Once they left, I had 1 hour conversation with my mother about this. She wasn't happy even though I explained my side of story. My father understands this, tells me to CYA better next time (paraphrased).

Sometimes people aren't so nice, you're screwed no matter the way you put it.

[Thuganomics]

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A hell of a long rant about nothing much.

[TheCadaanGuy]

Sometimes you have to vent, or you explode later.

[Thuganomics]

Sometimes you have to vent, or you explode later.

Sxb,read a master class in what can go wrong when guests are in the house

http://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewtop ... 8&t=258122

[GAMES]

LooL that sounds like a family from hell. I am just curious, are u Somali or mixed with something else?

[GAMES]

DP

[GAMES]

DP.

[CaliQase]

Sometimes you have to vent, or you explode later.

Sxb,read a master class in what can go wrong when guests are in the house

http://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewtop ... 8&t=258122

[Thuganomics]

Sometimes you have to vent, or you explode later.

Sxb,read a master class in what can go wrong when guests are in the house

http://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewtop ... 8&t=258122

I pull this up every now and again.Shit is priceless dee

[CaliQase]

Yeah. I think I read it before. I don't know.

[GAMES]

LooL that dude has to be trolling. Istaqfurullah.

[TheCadaanGuy]

LooL that sounds like a family from hell. I am just curious, are u Somali or mixed with something else?

I'm Somali, not mixed.

Sometimes you have to vent, or you explode later.

Sxb,read a master class in what can go wrong when guests are in the house

http://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewtop ... 8&t=258122

I don't know what to say about this

[SahanGalbeed]

Wow , don't get out of your room if she doesn't have her hijab on , go here , go there , too complicated . A lot of bs about nothing if you ask me

[GAMES]

The reason i asked if you were Somali is, how the hell do u get bullied in Af Somali by 13yr.

[SahanGalbeed]

Anigu beri , I almost got shot for it too , gabadh aan iska jeclaaday Hargeysa , berigey iska reer miyiga haayeen , baan is idhi tolow sideed u la hadli kartaa ? Galab walba meeshan ku qayilo ayay soo hor mari jirtay . Habeen intaan si xun u mirqaamay baa is idhi " I gotta do something about this " Waxaan iska tagay xaafada walaasheed lagu qabay oo ay ku noolayd . Cabaar baan guriigi iska ag fadhiistay . Odaygii guriga laha ayaa isoo baxay . Indho adeyg baa lagu dhinta saw ma'aha ?! Marku igu yidhi maxaad u dan lahayd adeer , waxan ugu jawaabay , heblaayo ayaan u imid
He couldn't believe it , wuxu na ogaa inaan iska yaakhi ahay . Markaasu igu yidhi :" waxan anagu dhaqan u ma lihin , ee orodoo iska tag!!"
Waxan ugu jawaabay , HJ naag HA ah qaba bu aha , "dhegayso adeer , gabadhani maalin walba way soo baxda . Haddan rabo wadooyinkaas ayaan kula kulmi kara , laakiin waxa la ii qaatay inaan gurigaaga hortiisa kula sheekaysto " Wuxu yidhi " War adeer niyow , maskaxda ayaad wax ka qabta e , orodoo inaga tag !" Waaan iska tagay , the next day , labo xunoo accent xunoo reer bari ah leh oo dayday la moodo baa guriga hor fadhiyay , ileyn berigaa HJ_du magaalada way ku yareyd oo , ninkii soo ag mara ba inu duulaan ku soo qaadayo ayay u haysatay