Is it still norm for Somali women to give up their jobs/career once married?

[TheCadaanGuy]

Our generation are starting to marry each other. I know a few young Somali families, about half of them are working, the other half are not. Most of those working are from London, so that's probably because they have no choice.

So, is it still normal for ladies to give up their jobs/career once married? How would your family consider you if you had your wife (or you) working?

[TheLoFather]

Your thread and it's wordings makes it sound like Somalis have/had culture of oppression towards women!
And I find it very patronising!!!

I know in all Somali lands working women married or not have never been an issue. Maybe in the past their level of skill had limited them to certain jobs.
However you will find in evry Somali family at least one working mother. In my own immediete family: my great grand mother worked and was main bread winner in the fifties owning business that makes grocery baskets (salladaha lagu qaato khutaarta iyo cuntada ) as well as rugs (saliga dhulka lagu goglado) and she used to distribute through out her region. My mother's mother owned a shop and worked there managing evrything and my mother worked as a teacher in Hargeisa in the eighties. My wife is currently a trainee nurse as well as a tutor in her spare time tutoring two of our neighbouring families' children(and still have plenty of time left for us and our family).
Therefore women/wives working and having a career have never been an issue that I have ever come accross whether in within my family, relatives or any other Somalis that I have ever come across.
I don't know what your personal experiences are but I believe vast majority of Somalis are never bothered by women having careers/work and at same time being wives.
Of course when a women's family grows (increase of children) some jobs/careers do put strain on family life. Some find ways of making the two compatible and some women decide to give up their careers and to concentrate on the family and raising the children permitting having husband with reasonable income to support family needs or having financial security. As my mother had done...giving up her teaching job (and she had informed me it was solely her decision infact she told me that my father didn't want her to quit as he knew she liked teaching very much but went against his advice).

To answer your question about how my family feel about having a wife that works and pursuing a career, they wouldn't have it any other way but feel and being totally supportive and happy for her ... and that is for a fact.

I really don't know why some make it out to seem that Somalis by nature oppress women and that women are not allowed to make their own decisions in how they live their lives.
Infact I know Somali culture has always been very liberal towards women and women have always been a major force in the family and issues concerning it.
And please note that Just because there maybe few or no women in perticular line of work i.e. career DOES NOT mean it's because they are not allowed it maybe because few or no women found such a career appealing and some careers maybe too physically demanding that they decide against it.

I would suggest you look into your own family history and the role the women played e.g. jobs they had.

[Adali]

I don't want them to do that! I want independent woman oo wax ila qaba to!

[Susu000]

Your thread and it's wordings makes it sound like Somalis have/had culture of oppression towards women!
And I find it very patronising!!!

I know in all Somali lands working women married or not have never been an issue. Maybe in the past their level of skill had limited them to certain jobs.
However you will find in evry Somali family at least one working mother. In my own immediete family: my great grand mother worked and was main bread winner in the fifties owning business that makes grocery baskets (salladaha lagu qaato khutaarta iyo cuntada ) as well as rugs (saliga dhulka lagu goglado) and she used to distribute through out her region. My mother's mother owned a shop and worked there managing evrything and my mother worked as a teacher in Hargeisa in the eighties. My wife is currently a trainee nurse as well as a tutor in her spare time tutoring two of our neighbouring families' children(and still have plenty of time left for us and our family).
Therefore women/wives working and having a career have never been an issue that I have ever come accross whether in within my family, relatives or any other Somalis that I have ever come across.
I don't know what your personal experiences are but I believe vast majority of Somalis are never bothered by women having careers/work and at same time being wives.
Of course when a women's family grows (increase of children) some jobs/careers do put strain on family life. Some find ways of making the two compatible and some women decide to give up their careers and to concentrate on the family and raising the children permitting having husband with reasonable income to support family needs or having financial security. As my mother had done...giving up her teaching job (and she had informed me it was solely her decision infact she told me that my father didn't want her to quit as he knew she liked teaching very much but went against his advice).

To answer your question about how my family feel about having a wife that works and pursuing a career, they wouldn't have it any other way but feel and being totally supportive and happy for her ... and that is for a fact.

I really don't know why some make it out to seem that Somalis by nature oppress women and that women are not allowed to make their own decisions in how they live their lives.
Infact I know Somali culture has always been very liberal towards women and women have always been a major force in the family and issues concerning it.
And please note that Just because there maybe few or no women in perticular line of work i.e. career DOES NOT mean it's because they are not allowed it maybe because few or no women found such a career appealing and some careers maybe too physically demanding that they decide against it.


I would suggest you look into your own family history and the role the women played e.g. jobs they had.

Cosign!!

[Sumubaridi]

Our generation are starting to marry each other. I know a few young Somali families, about half of them are working, the other half are not. Most of those working are from London, so that's probably because they have no choice.

So, is it still normal for ladies to give up their jobs/career once married? How would your family consider you if you had your wife (or you) working?

I will allow her to work if she can meet 4 requirements

1) She will leave the house after I Leave and come home before I Come
2) She will find a good day care for the kids, take them back and forth and pay for it
3) She should not tell me about being tired bla bla bla bla
4) She should not bring a penny of her so called Money to my house.

[bluelovelady]

It is better for a woman to work so she will fight with her boss and coworkers instead of you. Then she will be happy to see you everyday instead of bored and thinking the whole day of what you did wrong.

[MujahidAishah]

It depends on what I want to do and what's best for my family.

If the niiga can hold it down financially I'll be at home raising the kids and taking care of home with his meal on the table

If it's a rough patch I'll go out and work bring food to the table match his hustle too!! I'm a ride or die chick for my boo and I still hold down the house and have his food ready on the table


Only if he is a hustler and put family first if not niiga got to go

[TheFuturist]

It depends on what I want to do and what's best for my family.

If the niiga can hold it down financially I'll be at home raising the kids and taking care of home with his meal on the table

If it's a rough patch I'll go out and work bring food to the table match his hustle too!! I'm a ride or die chick for my boo and I still hold down the house and have his food ready on the table


Only if he is a hustler and put family first if not niiga got to go

[TheFuturist]

It depends on what I want to do and what's best for my family.

If the niiga can hold it down financially I'll be at home raising the kids and taking care of home with his meal on the table

If it's a rough patch I'll go out and work bring food to the table match his hustle too!! I'm a ride or die chick for my boo and I still hold down the house and have his food ready on the table


Only if he is a hustler and put family first if not niiga got to go

Get an aupair. But they could steal from u

[MujahidAishah]

It depends on what I want to do and what's best for my family.

If the niiga can hold it down financially I'll be at home raising the kids and taking care of home with his meal on the table

If it's a rough patch I'll go out and work bring food to the table match his hustle too!! I'm a ride or die chick for my boo and I still hold down the house and have his food ready on the table


Only if he is a hustler and put family first if not niiga got to go

Get an aupair. But they could steal from u

Why would I need an aupair that's some boorash cadaan nonsense

[GAMES]

LooL that's not going to happen. In the west, u would need two incomes to support ur family.

In other words, both parents have to work.

Also, why would Somali women need to give up their career? It makes no sense. U went to school for 4yrs to get a degree. So why give it and just sit at home?

Most companies have maternity leave, so u take couple of weeks or maybe months, than go back..

This is 2016, not 1970, when Somali women were expected to become stay at home wives.