Inaayah, mujahid, tushi, vivacious.All Girls I really need advice!!!

[Susu000]

So I have 4 girlfriends that are my ride or die chicks.. One of them is THE ultimate friend and we've been best friends for about 14 years now.

So we are all together in this group chat on whatsapp where we discuss things, rather than chatting one and one.

And my friend was advising us about a huge fight she had with her husband about something they had different views on. She was saying she was so annoyed with him and etc etc.

All I replied was; you can't be angry with him just because he doesn't agree with you, try to see things from his perspective aswell as he is a bit older than you. ( he is 10 years older)

And then boom, she answered something very spiteful to me about something that I had told her in confidence in the group with the other friends in there and they where both like OMG how could you say such a thing?

So I left the group and the other two tried to invite me back so we could sort it out.

Anyway, I wrote to this friend in a private chat, that what she just said in the group was private and hurt me a lot and very uncalled for.
And she answered she was really sorry, that she was very angry and took it out on me and admitted that it was very unnecessary of her to do so.

But now reflecting back, I've noticed a pattern in our friendship, she always throughout the years fucked up and always asked for forgiveness and I forgave.

My mum tells me, don't focus on the wrongs she has done but all the rights she has done for you.

But now I wonder, when is enough, enough?
I can't count numerous times that she's hurt me or the other two and we always forgive, but none of us never hurt her.

This time I'm really thinking of taking a step back and really evaluating wether this friendship is worth it?

Thoughts girls ?

[thehappyone]

She was already upset and you pointed out the age gap, in a group chat! How embarrassing!

Who needs enemies with friends like you.

[Susu000]

She was already upset and you pointed out the age gap, in a group chat! How embarrassing!

Who needs enemies with friends like you.

Their age gap has never been an issue. It's not like our husbands and us are the same age either. That was never her issue, she said she felt I was defending her husband and got upset and spat out what she did, which she admits was wrong.

[Tuushi]

I really doubt she was never hurt in all those years.I think you hurt her by being insensitive in a group chat but she didnt focus on that part.
she admitted and asked for forgiveness and didnt even say anything about being embarrassed,that is a solid friend.No one is perfect.

Personally,i would never share some things in groups,regardless how i felt about the people in the group.


Sorry if i got too technical.

[Susu000]

I really doubt she was never hurt in all those years.I think you hurt her by being insensitive in a group chat but she didnt focus on that part.
she admitted and asked for forgiveness and didnt even say anything about being embarrassed,that is a solid friend.No one is perfect.

Personally,i would never share some things in groups,regardless how i felt about the people in the group.


Sorry if i got too technical.

I can't say the what she said to me in the chat but It was something very hurtful. It actually made me cry because I was never expecting it from her. I was not insensitive I was just giving advice of the same nature that the other two where. I don't know why she targeted me and exploited me in such manner. But I've discussed with the other two and they too say that she always hurts and apologizes.
I know she apogized this time too.. But you can forgive but can you forget ?

I haven't spoken to her in 7 days now. And we used to yak daily, either by text, phone or what's up.

[smartyt]

If she has done it again and again then you need to stop your friendship with her its not going to be easy

[Tuushi]

I really doubt she was never hurt in all those years.I think you hurt her by being insensitive in a group chat but she didnt focus on that part.
she admitted and asked for forgiveness and didnt even say anything about being embarrassed,that is a solid friend.No one is perfect.

Personally,i would never share some things in groups,regardless how i felt about the people in the group.


Sorry if i got too technical.

I can't say the what she said to me in the chat but It was something very hurtful. It actually made me cry because I was never expecting it from her. I was not insensitive I was just giving advice of the same nature that the other two where. I don't know why she targeted me and exploited me in such manner. But I've discussed with the other two and they too say that she always hurts and apologizes.
I know she apogized this time too.. But you can forgive but can you forget ?

I haven't spoken to her in 7 days now. And we used to yak daily, either by text, phone or what's up.

This exactly is why i said what i said about group chats.I am sure u were hurt and no one can say otherwise but the fact u are already talking behind her back with the girls in the group,that will hurt her.

I am not going to attempt to justify what she did but yeah,see if u dont need her in your life.If she is always hurting and exploiting you,she is not worth it.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

i dont really see anything wrong about what you said, dumar and their drama lol. actually she should have apprecaited that you are not like the typical somali women who their only advise is, " warqadaada ka qaado"

[MujahidAishah]

i dont really see anything wrong about what you said, dumar and their drama lol. actually she should have apprecaited that you are not like the typical somali women who their only advise is, " warqadaada ka qaado"

She asked the girls for advice halkay ka timid

Luv you tho

[MujahidAishah]

Tell her to piss off she is not friend.. Never tell ppl like that something she is the type of friend that will drag you thru the dirt with other ppl and come bck and tell ya

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^ yeah, you guys dont comment on sumu threads when he asks us advice or other male only threads gtf btw check the fantasy thread

[MujahidAishah]

^ yeah, you guys dont comment on sumu threads when he asks us advice or other male only threads gtf btw check the fantasy thread

Waa caadi Hunno you can advice Susu

I saw the thread

[Susu000]

If she has done it again and again then you need to stop your friendship with her its not going to be easy

Thats the thing, going back in years during my reflection I saw the pattern of her hurting- apologizing and everything being good. This is over the course of the years but it seems like it's a pattern.

What made me so specially hurt this time is that she exposed a very dear secretl of mine in the group chat..

I also think it's very hard as my mum said, don't count her wrongs, count her rights.. And as friends we've been though so much together and she has really been a very good friend. But this occasional hurting thing I'm not sure
how much longer I can deal with it.
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It's like I'll be the best friend you'll ever have, but every once in a while I'm gonna hurt you and apologize.

[Susu000]

Tell her to piss off she is not friend.. Never tell ppl like that something she is the type of friend that will drag you thru the dirt with other ppl and come bck and tell ya

I haven't spoken to her in a week now and I've forgiven her, but I won't forget and I know for sure things will never be the same again. I can be friends but I'm sure as hell not telling her something private ever again.

[Susu000]

I really doubt she was never hurt in all those years.I think you hurt her by being insensitive in a group chat but she didnt focus on that part.
she admitted and asked for forgiveness and didnt even say anything about being embarrassed,that is a solid friend.No one is perfect.

Personally,i would never share some things in groups,regardless how i felt about the people in the group.


Sorry if i got too technical.

I can't say the what she said to me in the chat but It was something very hurtful. It actually made me cry because I was never expecting it from her. I was not insensitive I was just giving advice of the same nature that the other two where. I don't know why she targeted me and exploited me in such manner. But I've discussed with the other two and they too say that she always hurts and apologizes.
I know she apogized this time too.. But you can forgive but can you forget ?

I haven't spoken to her in 7 days now. And we used to yak daily, either by text, phone or what's up.

This exactly is why i said what i said about group chats.I am sure u were hurt and no one can say otherwise but the fact u are already talking behind her back with the girls in the group,that will hurt her.

I am not going to attempt to justify what she did but yeah,see if u dont need her in your life.If she is always hurting and exploiting you,she is not worth it.

I don't feel like I'm talking about her behind her back as I've even refused to discuss with the other two. The only person person I've spoken to is my mom and somalinet because somalinet is anonymous. None of the girls are Somali and won't be reading this anyway.