Meeting her mom for the first time

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Bismilah

My cousin is due to get married soon assuming the girl's mom likes him. I need to help him get ready for meeting (generally speaking.) He is meeting her mom next month and she's invited him to her house and they'll be alone. I didn't have any experience in this because her parents are back home. So fellas help me help my cousin.

What should he do to make a good impression other than just being himself, honest, and relaxed.?
What should he expect since she'll be pretty much deciding whether he is a good fit for her daughter?
Things will probably get awkward what should he do to avoid that and if it happens how should he counter it?
I want to hear from people who have done this or know people who have done it. Thank you all.

[Inaayah]

Be daacad. That's it

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

tell him to buy take these as a gift, kubaayado iyo kildhiga shaax lagu kariyo, iyo set saxuun iyo koobabka sharaabka oo isku eeg, oo shagaar leh

[Inaayah]

tell him to buy take these as a gift, kubaayado iyo kildhiga shaax lagu kariyo, iyo set saxuun iyo koobabka sharaabka oo isku eeg, oo shagaar leh

Wallahi I was gona write this but allowed it

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^ allow dhowr our friend sumu

[Libix]

tell him to buy take these as a gift, kubaayado iyo kildhiga shaax lagu kariyo, iyo set saxuun iyo koobabka sharaabka oo isku eeg, oo shagaar leh

Sumubaridi miya ninka waanba yaabe?

[Bibaaye6828]

Be daacad. That's it

This really. Scary shit tho especially if the mum is a narcissistic loudmouth.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

^ biba, cawa she didnt turn off the wifi lol

libix, haa waa hadyada oo sumu sodoh kasta oo uu la kulmaayo u geeyo

[SultanOrder]

Unless she wants to hate you then she will be welcoming and trying to build a bond.

[AwRastaale]

I suggest that he buys a book called; My qabiil hal eber hal (101).

He should read that and try to figure out her qabil and become a professor in her reer. That includes perfecting the accent, greeting, and what food to expect.

Take for example when I proposed to Isaaq chick, it was very different approach when I courted a Hawiye one.

The Isaaq mum I told her like this; Eedo asc, so ma fiicniid? Reerihi oo dhan so jamjam maha? Masha Allah. Horta anigu waxan ahay nin reer A, ka si ah reer B.....all the way to Z until she said "Allaaa hoogay waryahee ma hebel ba ku dhalaay. War inaanta ada lagu dhalaye imikaba xagayso".

Done deal.

With Hawiye mum.

Eedo ASC, nabad lee mahino? Beelo mahino? Aboosto lee!!

Hooyada; igaarkay so mod nooh, minikay wa minika lee!!

Wa ooga sheekadin camal, war qeyr aan ka filaha wiilkaay hee, so bodbod!!


(Me thinking saying God damn I should have paid attention to Warsheekh or Yalaxoow sidan uu qaybo siday uu hadlan).

Haa nooh qeyr camal aan uu imi lee wana so bodboda bakeele camal nooh.

Hooyada: mesha lee iska jog cadi lee weeye gabarti wa lagu siyaay nooh lakin balan lee ka raba hee.


Done deal.

Moral of the story; don't fear mothers just be cool. Dress smart. Say salaamu caleykum. Never reject her shah.

[Advo]

^

Don't try that OP, let ur cousin be himself.

With the lack of good Somali men in the west, her parents should be thrilled to have him around (assuming his a responsible person).

If his Somali sucks, let him take few of his uncles to make the situation a lot less awkward.

[FarhanYare]

I suggest that he buys a book called; My qabiil hal eber hal (101).

He should read that and try to figure out her qabil and become a professor in her reer. That includes perfecting the accent, greeting, and what food to expect.

Take for example when I proposed to Isaaq chick, it was very different approach when I courted a Hawiye one.

The Isaaq mum I told her like this; Eedo asc, so ma fiicniid? Reerihi oo dhan so jamjam maha? Masha Allah. Horta anigu waxan ahay nin reer A, ka si ah reer B.....all the way to Z until she said "Allaaa hoogay waryahee ma hebel ba ku dhalaay. War inaanta ada lagu dhalaye imikaba xagayso".

Done deal.

With Hawiye mum.

Eedo ASC, nabad lee mahino? Beelo mahino? Aboosto lee!!

Hooyada; igaarkay so mod nooh, minikay wa minika lee!!

Wa ooga sheekadin camal, war qeyr aan ka filaha wiilkaay hee, so bodbod!!


(Me thinking saying God damn I should have paid attention to Warsheekh or Yalaxoow sidan uu qaybo siday uu hadlan).

Haa nooh qeyr camal aan uu imi lee wana so bodboda bakeele camal nooh.

Hooyada: mesha lee iska jog cadi lee weeye gabarti wa lagu siyaay nooh lakin balan lee ka raba hee.


Done deal.

Moral of the story; don't fear mothers just be cool. Dress smart. Say salaamu caleykum. Never reject her shah.

Surprise surprise hawiye again!

[Raganimo]

I was hella scared the first time I met her mother, but she turned out to be a really nice person. Just yell tell him to be courteous, and just be himself. You don't have to put on a front and try to be something that you're not. You're the guest, remember.

[joof]

I suggest that he buys a book called; My qabiil hal eber hal (101).

He should read that and try to figure out her qabil and become a professor in her reer. That includes perfecting the accent, greeting, and what food to expect.

Take for example when I proposed to Isaaq chick, it was very different approach when I courted a Hawiye one.

The Isaaq mum I told her like this; Eedo asc, so ma fiicniid? Reerihi oo dhan so jamjam maha? Masha Allah. Horta anigu waxan ahay nin reer A, ka si ah reer B.....all the way to Z until she said "Allaaa hoogay waryahee ma hebel ba ku dhalaay. War inaanta ada lagu dhalaye imikaba xagayso".

Done deal.

With Hawiye mum.

Eedo ASC, nabad lee mahino? Beelo mahino? Aboosto lee!!

Hooyada; igaarkay so mod nooh, minikay wa minika lee!!

Wa ooga sheekadin camal, war qeyr aan ka filaha wiilkaay hee, so bodbod!!


(Me thinking saying God damn I should have paid attention to Warsheekh or Yalaxoow sidan uu qaybo siday uu hadlan).

Haa nooh qeyr camal aan uu imi lee wana so bodboda bakeele camal nooh.

Hooyada: mesha lee iska jog cadi lee weeye gabarti wa lagu siyaay nooh lakin balan lee ka raba hee.


Done deal.

Moral of the story; don't fear mothers just be cool. Dress smart. Say salaamu caleykum. Never reject her shah.

hhhhhhh thats good lakiin lahjada aad hawiye ku tilmaatay waa mid ciyaalka xaafada xamar qof weyn oo sidaas hadlo maba jiro lakiin good joke bro

[Sumubaridi]

Get it from the expert: as some have already said, let him find out from the girl what her mom values. Religion, politics, clanism, education, business and get to her through her. Also, buy some gift that Mothers like. I took set of cups/saysar, thermos, malab and few Quran lectures coz I knew she was religious. Dress according to her mom style. Be Qabiil Neutral. Whatever you do, don't claim habargidir because that might remind her of qof dhintay waqti hore if you are HG, say you are Hiraab. Or Madarkicis Hiraab and pretend not to know the rest.