Celebrating my 4th year Divorce Anniversary

[Sumubaridi]

I got divorced on September 8th 2012. My 4th year Anniversary is coming up in a month and I am thinking of how I can celebrate it. I might visit the apartment that we used to live in, a retail store that she used to work and the community college that she used to go. I might also eat her favorite food ( caramel Ice ream and Fried Rice). It will fall on a Thursday so I think that is all I can do for an afternoon.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5IHpHo ... HoxebI#t=0

[barbarossa]

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[Hyperactive]

i wont pretend i know how you feel or tell you what to do. Allah ko gargaaro.

[Sumubaridi]

i wont pretend i know how you feel or tell you what to do. Allah ko gargaaro.

Have you ever heard of a good Somali man? I am that good Somali man you have heard of or read in books. A loving, trustworthy, kind and generous. We have one problem though. We give our soul and heart and if we are betrayed, It takes us too long to recover from the betrayal. We trust once and if we are screwed up, We never trust again. We get scared of being betrayed or hurt again. So we do not move on for a long time.

Here is why?

A girl told me she loved me and that, She will be with me forever. I gave her my soul and breath. I tried everything I could think of to make her happy. She left and ahahahaha got married to another man and just moved on like that.

How could I trust another girl if she tells me she loves me and she will be with me forever. I am not going to fool myself that, she is using different words. 2 Words that I disgust me to my soul are: " I love you" and I will be with you forever". If a girl uses those words, I hang up the phone and delete her number.

[Sumubaridi]

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You don't move on from sweet memories. It leaves a mark in your heart. You move on from bad relationships. You can pretend to move on but it will only take you to see a place you visited with her or her old friend or relative. Boom, the memories come back like it happened yesterday. Do you think I like to hold on to the memories of a woman who is married to another man? Maya. I just can't help it.

[Hyperactive]

poor sumu, you were trolled. even me knows nothing is forever, even our lives have time to end.

ninyaho, life is "daneysato" wa la isku daneysta until lasts. for example, aroorta la isku korsadsa, wa la is waheshada...etc.

you love and care your mother and father, you care your wife, that is the differents.

[Libix]

Moveon.org

You don't move on from sweet memories. It leaves a mark in your heart. You move on from bad relationships. You can pretend to move on but it will only take you to see a place you visited with her or her old friend or relative. Boom, the memories come back like it happened yesterday. Do you think I like to hold on to the memories of a woman who is married to another man? Maya. I just can't help it.

indulging in memories of the past sidi inaad caano geel iyo odkac kuheleyso camal waxba kuuma soo celinaayaane orod yaryarki baaquli kudoono

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Imagine if sumu had children with his ex and he has to deal with her, talk to her and see her! He might have committed suicide I know isnt easy but you have move on at some point and dwelling on the past won't help you move on.

[Sumubaridi]

Imagine if sumu had children with his ex and he has to deal with her, talk to her and see her! He might have committed suicide I know isnt easy but you have move on at some point and dwelling on the past won't help you move on.

Cigaal,

Move on to who? I don't think if I will trust another woman. Dee I trusted women once and they betrayed me. I won't let them hurt me. I think am save being single. Once you give your heart to women, you do not know what they will do to it. Am just scared of being hurt again. But tell you, those memories are sweet and I feel happy holding on to them.

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

Look up the definition of moving on. I am sure it doesn't mean trusting women again or marrying again.

[zulaika]

Sounds like you miss her. Revisiting all the places and things you shared. Maybe you should try getting her back; if she has not moved on with someone else.

[Sumubaridi]

Sounds like you miss her. Revisiting all the places and things you shared. Maybe you should try getting her back; if she has not moved on with someone else.

I don't think I miss her. But that is my Anniversary for my old life. She didn't go to those places alone. I was with her. Its like Childhood memories.

And Yes, She moved on. She has husband and babies. That is why I am angry because she told me she will be with me forever. She shouldn't have said that if she wasn't sure she will do that. That is how Somali girls do to guys who are super nice and take their words as it comes to them

[Hyperactive]

lol@that is somali girls so to guys!! war it's universal. other day i was reading reports in my department that says; in first time in qatar, divorce is higher than marriage!! it wasnt suprice to me, in my short life i did divorce contract than marriage contract . i dont care really for adults but i feel bad for kids in these relation specially both sides use kids as weapon to farther harm the other.

my cats dont deserve that pain.

[MujahidAishah]

Imagine if sumu had children with his ex and he has to deal with her, talk to her and see her! He might have committed suicide I know isnt easy but you have move on at some point and dwelling on the past won't help you move on.

Ka wax ka daran they have kids and she gets remarried

Then he will definitely commit suicide

[zulaika]

Sounds like you miss her. Revisiting all the places and things you shared. Maybe you should try getting her back; if she has not moved on with someone else.

I don't think I miss her. But that is my Anniversary for my old life. She didn't go to those places alone. I was with her. Its like Childhood memories.

And Yes, She moved on. She has husband and babies. That is why I am angry because she told me she will be with me forever. She shouldn't have said that if she wasn't sure she will do that. That is how Somali girls do to guys who are super nice and take their words as it comes to them

She's married with kids? Huuno move on, you are simply torturing yourself. I think you are the first person to ever have a breakup anniversary.

Good luck with the next one; hopefully she will treat u better and reciprocate your efforts.