Do Somalis have any food etiquette? Or social etiquette?

[X.Playa]

I have lately moved to the center of a Somali ghetto, I am close to 5 somali restaurants. So maybe once a week I eat out in them.

I have noticed Somalis have zero food etiquette, it's a public restaurant and yet you would see 4 eating from one large plate with hands some sticking their fore fingers in mouth to push the food the others use the Asian habit of first making small ball of rice before pushing it in the mouth using the thumb. Total chaos.

Another strange thing is when somalis in restaurant eat the meat from the bones instead of keeping the bones in his plate they liter the table with bones each on discarding his heap of bones on the table. Once they leave the next customer and the poor waiter are put into difficult position one is cleanin the embarrassment and the other is sitting in a table full of bones.

One time as I was enjoying the pre meal soup, I was watching a savage with his litter of kids eating. Two kids are sharing one plate and him is eating from one . The entire family is using hands, he is eating using one hand and in the other hand he is talking on the phone yaking mouth wide open rice flying , kids also are eating like their father mouth wide open and struggling to out mouth the other ( boob). As he was talking he also was throwing piece of meat from his plate to the kids plate while all on the phone. When most people way they never ever talk on the phone it's part of enjoying your foods.

After watching these hyena family they left and I noticed the savages left one to go meal on the table, obviously the to go meal probably was for the wife or mother of the kids. I went outsid saw the beast still on the phone yaking while his kids are trying to get in the car. I asked him did you guys ordered a to go and left it behind, still on the phone he shouted to one of his cups and told him to run and grabb it. He never even say thanks he continued yaking on the phone like a bored woman no food or social etiquette at all .

I have to use the train or city bus sometimes I as a personnel rule and long years of a habit if my phone rings I pick it up and make it as short as possible and in quite voice, if itsnt important I don't even pick it, I don't want to invade the personell space of other riders answering a call that begins with " haye maxaa isku dhacaya". Somalis will yak loud and meaningless on the phone on public transportation annoying everybody. They will board the bus on phone on talking and continue talking the entire trip and still disembark yaking. I don't know if it's the same in the US and Europe here somali women have discovered another use for the xijaab other then hiding a bad hair day they now use it to hold their huge smart phones hand free they insert the phone on one side of the xijaab and yak for hours while walking on the street a bizzare new habit.

Talking loud, why do Somalis talk loud? This question is called " waa suaal d'a weyno oo madxaa daalinaysee" . Through long day dreaming at last I solve the mystery and this is my theory. Somalis are nomads and nomads use the shade of a tree to talk or discuess things now imagine sitting with five nomads in a windy outside environment you have to talk loud to be heared over the wind and open air. Thousands of years of assembly under the tree have given the Somalis this loud voice. Another thing is the somali female voice. It's unique it was first noticed by Richard Burton in 1853 he noted that somali women have a plaintive voice. Plaintive voice means they always by nature sound like they are complaining about something. Listen to two somali women " naa cabarooy " in plaintive call the other answers " heeeee cibaado " this loud plaintive voice evolved after thousands of years of nagging their men folk. Either way they are no less louder then their men albeit with a plaintive nagging voice.

Now how can we change these magaalo joog xumo?

[PrinceNugaalHawd]

Somalis are Embrassing everywhere, they are loud on the phones, in offices, hospitals, restaurants, outside. They Eat like they are savages and make a mess of of everything. They talk loud, they dig in their nose in public, they spit in public. They dont know how to drive and cause accidents everyday, they are on the local news every single day. They need to learn how to act in a City, majority of them waa reer Badiye.

[X.Playa]

Ta ugu darani waa qaylada iyo hadal badnaanida.

I have forget to mention the habit of talking over one another! Mid ba ka kale intu dhagaysan lahaa ka kamana markiisa hadli lahaa hadalkay kala boobaan. Mid gaal ah ayaa meel ka akhriyey lahaa " Somalis talk over one another like women"

[Ben Dover]

Remember guys that the vast majority of Somalis you see today in the West are x-reer miye. Up until the early 90s it was the reer magaal Somalis that found their way into Europe and N. America. Now these places are overrun with reer miye who had very little chance to acclimatise and have carried their reer miye ways into their host countries.

The only people I saw to have worse city living etiquette than reer miye Somalis are reer miyi indhoyar.

[PrinceNugaalHawd]

I get mad sometimes when I see them talking over each other, the whole problem could've been solved if the other listens to what the other has to say. Lol

They are also always right, I translate for them when they ask sometimes and I see they caused a problem or the person they are asking can't really do anything about the situation, but they demand its it's not their fault or they should fix the problem or if it's a bill it should be reduced when they are already getting discounts, they give you a headache.

[PrinceNugaalHawd]

Remember guys that the vast majority of Somalis you see today in the West are x-reer miye. Up until the early 90s it was the reer magaal Somalis that found their way into Europe and N. America. Now these places are overrun with reer miye who had very little chance to acclimatise and have carried their reer miye ways into their host countries.

The only people I saw to have worse city living etiquette than reer miye Somalis are reer miyi indhoyar.

I agree, the Japanese, Koreans, tawainase are Reer Magaal, the Chinese, Vietnamese, Cambodians, Filipinos, Thai, Loasiens, are Reer Badiye.

[X.Playa]

Some are due to them been from the bush but there are deep ingrained habits that reer magaal and miyi share, loud voices, argumentative and listening to answer back instead of understanding what you are trying to say.

Another deeply ingrained habits I even have is how easily superior cultures can piss us off with blow the belt cold war xaasidnimo and xin. Arabs whites and pakies will play mind games till the somali is possed off and angry then they play the victim or they use that as an excuse to fire you from a job or deny you something. Alla maxay shaqo sidaas lagaga eryay. Imika I try never ever get angry nin cadhooday laga badi. Most Somalis are easily provoked.

[X.Playa]

I get mad sometimes when I see them talking over each other, the whole problem could've been solved if the other listens to what the other has to say. Lol

They are also always right, I translate for them when they ask sometimes and I see they caused a problem or the person they are asking can't really do anything about the situation, but they demand its it's not their fault or they should fix the problem or if it's a bill it should be reduced when they are already getting discounts, they give you a headache.

The newbies are the worst, they have this weird everything me me attitude. Also when it comes to Somali balwad even those who drink are less troublesom then the one who chew. The once that drink have a small circle of friends with drinking habit they only inter mingle with fellow drinkers this they are isolated from the rest and they are usually less clannish, they are multi clan then the chewer groups or the maqaaxi meermerr type. The trouble makers are the qaad chewers and coffee shop loitering addicts, xan, xin, qabyaalad , war kala qaad isku dir. Entire day in front of a makhaayad or playing cards or chewing. These last group are the most clannish each mingle mostly with his qabiil and avoids others. Years of that culture breeds into them my clan and their myth is facts and everything else is a lie.

[kanadiid90]

Somalis are Embrassing everywhere, they are loud on the phones, in offices, hospitals, restaurants, outside. They Eat like they are savages and make a mess of of everything. They talk loud, they dig in their nose in public, they spit in public. They dont know how to drive and cause accidents everyday, they are on the local news every single day. They need to learn how to act in a City, majority of them waa reer Badiye.

walhi they are, back when I was in Middle east somalis copied one nasty arab culture where one will cut you piece of meat from mufadax ( rice cooked with a whole neef) from his hands then pass it to you while yall eating. at least some arabs do it once yall sit in the beginning before he starts eating with own hands but somalis..... they will cut you that piece of meat with hands that are dropping with grease and saliva, not to mention talking with their mouth full, spits going left and right, being loud, the mess they make and so on.

[X.Playa]

That's exactly what I meant, you see how he is using hands to eat , basically he shovels the good into his mouth, the Arabs hardly drop a single rice, look at that table rice all over. Notice he is eating from a disposable plate lol

[PanSomaliNationalist]

[theyuusuf143]

Ta ugu darani waa qaylada iyo hadal badnaanida.

I have forget to mention the habit of talking over one another! Mid ba ka kale intu dhagaysan lahaa ka kamana markiisa hadli lahaa hadalkay kala boobaan. Mid gaal ah ayaa meel ka akhriyey lahaa " Somalis talk over one another like women"

Ilaah baan kugu dhaarshee (ilaahayna ma taqaanide) ma adigoo Xkeyse ahbaa maanta Soomaali ku dhaliilaya Qaylo. Yaa kaa Qaylo badnaa , Qawdhan nimadaba adaa lagaa bartay man the way you sound in paltalk and the way you behave in Snet is totally different. In paltalk you sound like typical Somali alpha male, the kind of man who eats camel meat and use his own tuwaal Garxajis. Halkana gaal yaroo madaw oo qurbaha ku dhasho kalaad u dhaqantaa. Kkkkk

[Timiro1999]

Somalidu markaasay isku mashquulan, bal yaa idiin diray dadka kale dhaqankooda.
Iyagu isma arkaan lkn dadka kale ayay wax ka sheegi yaqaanan!

[GeoSeven]

On average, we're only a few generations removed from a nomadic culture and any universal decorum and urbanity that was cultivated in the short space of time we progressed as a people has been thrown into disarray.

We've been in a state of social regression for three decades and I'd say every Somali is collectively at fault for it.

[Veganista]

One of my pet peeves is also table manners I can't stand it. It's not only Somalis who are loud all Africans are loud. I find it more tolerable as some of the conversations and behaviour can be hilarious.