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Just asking for a friend? Is it after 90 days?


Jazak Allah Adeeryaal.

AbdiWahab252 wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 9:06 pm Just asking for a friend? Is it after 90 days?


Jazak Allah Adeeryaal.

is she Somali?

HayWire - Adeer ha...

AbdiWahab252 wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 9:09 pm HayWire - Adeer ha...

In Islam after 90 days is ok, But Somalis usually wait a little longer to void some awkwardness, with relatives etc. The woman needs to grieve and get over her deceased husband. You move in too fast and you could face dealing with some emotional issues, who needs that. If kids are involved its even more challenging. Unless she murdered the deceased nigga then the sooner the better.

I think for a widow, dating is xaraam or dhaqan xumo.
Dhaqanka Somaaliyeed says that a brother, cousin or close relative of the diseased husband should Dumaal her. And if for some reason that becomes difficult or the widow doesn't accept a proposal from them, then she must wait for acceptable and suitable men to approach and propose after which she can pick the most suited and acceptable (acceptable to reerka Ninka ka dhintey if there are children ) but it is Very much disproved and frowned upon, for a widow to start chasing men no matter how long has past since she became a widow.

However, since these are the times where dhaqan xumo and xaraam are fashionable, there maybe nothing stopping here from dating soon as the funeral ends.

Bisinka iyo yasinka

A widow grieves for 4 months and ten day i.e. Gambada cad

What is this 90 day rule your on

Yall have some fuck'd up morals sxb

Loda not really dumaal is not accustomed to all somali my tol doesn't not do dumaal when my great grandfather died they told my his wife to either leave her son behind and find another husband or be a widow and raise your son
Waar dadku jaahil bey ahayiin and not much has changed now

Back home maybe dumaal is possible, but in the west it is hard. Dating could be interpreted differently, AW could be thinking just like talking to the woman about marriage and nothing dhaqan xumo about that, you maybe thinking in western context and the shenanigans that come with it. Either way the woman needs a man and nobody has the right to tell her not to live her life after the death of her husband.

Not right away bloody hell how long as my man been dead aun

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:12 pm Bisinka iyo yasinka

A widow grieves for 4 months and ten day i.e. Gambada cad

What is this 90 day rule your on

Yall have some fuck'd up morals sxb

Loda not really dumaal is not accustomed to all somali my tol doesn't not do dumaal when my great grandfather died they told my his wife to either leave her son behind and find another husband or be a widow and raise your son
Waar dadku jaahil bey ahayiin and not much has changed now

I think he meant after the assay thing is done I forgot how many months that is. But let's be honest, sooner or later the urges will return and woman/man need to get laid

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:15 pm Not right away bloody hell how long as my man been dead aun

HayWire wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:18 pm

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:15 pm Not right away bloody hell how long as my man been dead aun

What dee

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:22 pm

HayWire wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:18 pm

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:15 pm Not right away bloody hell how long as my man been dead aun

What dee

That is hella confusing

HayWire wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:24 pm

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:22 pm

HayWire wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:18 pm

What dee

That is hella confusing

Adeer I forgot you're old school my man means this dude when you're enquiring about something

Adeer la soco sheekada

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:28 pm

HayWire wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:24 pm

MujahidAishah wrote: Tue Oct 03, 2017 10:22 pm

What dee

That is hella confusing

Adeer I forgot you're old school my man means this dude when you're enquiring about something

Adeer la soco sheekada

lesson learned and L taken

Iddah lasts 4 months and 10 days

Whoever from amongst you dies and leaves behind wives, the wives will hold themselves [from marriage] for four months and ten days. (Al Baqrah: 234)