Im a guy...who likes guys?
Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2020 4:44 am
Hi and Salaam,
This is obviously something that bothers me because I wouldnt be posting this here if it didnt. I know that some of you will laugh and ridicule this post but before you do that consider that maybe I could be your brother, uncle, dad etc etc so it pays to be understanding.
Anyway as the subject states I am a male who is attracted to other males. This is obviously not okay from both a cultural perspective and a relgious one. I am like most Somalis kinda religious and have chosen to stick to my religion as I believe it is worthy of practice and I believe in all the tenents of Islam. However I am a little troubled by the fact that I am gay and what this means for my future. I havent largely confided in anyone of this but people of my age are expected to get married so this issue is constantly at the forefront of my mind.
Now I know some people will just comment that I should just marry a girl etc and start a family but deep down I know that I cant love a girl. More than anything what I am afraid of is marrying a woman and having children with her and not feeling any love towards her. On the other hand it is nearly impossible to find a Somali guy and im scared of being alone. Im also scared of disowning myself from the community and if I ever got in relationship with a guy im worried that it may go beyond just a platonic relationship and I might do something which goes beyond my religion....
So anyway I know this is a weird topic for many people but I have even considered finding a guy from Somalia to marry and bring him to the west because believe it or not I am semi attracted to the somali faraxs which is weird but whatever.
So yea I guess im asking for reassurance, maybe some advice or whatever (anything besides redicule and slander)
This is obviously something that bothers me because I wouldnt be posting this here if it didnt. I know that some of you will laugh and ridicule this post but before you do that consider that maybe I could be your brother, uncle, dad etc etc so it pays to be understanding.
Anyway as the subject states I am a male who is attracted to other males. This is obviously not okay from both a cultural perspective and a relgious one. I am like most Somalis kinda religious and have chosen to stick to my religion as I believe it is worthy of practice and I believe in all the tenents of Islam. However I am a little troubled by the fact that I am gay and what this means for my future. I havent largely confided in anyone of this but people of my age are expected to get married so this issue is constantly at the forefront of my mind.
Now I know some people will just comment that I should just marry a girl etc and start a family but deep down I know that I cant love a girl. More than anything what I am afraid of is marrying a woman and having children with her and not feeling any love towards her. On the other hand it is nearly impossible to find a Somali guy and im scared of being alone. Im also scared of disowning myself from the community and if I ever got in relationship with a guy im worried that it may go beyond just a platonic relationship and I might do something which goes beyond my religion....
So anyway I know this is a weird topic for many people but I have even considered finding a guy from Somalia to marry and bring him to the west because believe it or not I am semi attracted to the somali faraxs which is weird but whatever.
So yea I guess im asking for reassurance, maybe some advice or whatever (anything besides redicule and slander)
