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We all know as muslims dating is haram, many sisters asked me then how you going to get to know someone?
Well here are ways:
A young person makes du'a for Allah to help him or her find the right person.
The family enquires, discusses, and suggests candidates. They consult with each other. Usually the father or mother approaches the other family to suggest a meeting.
Couple agrees to meet in chaperoned, group environment. Umar related that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram). The Prophet pbuh also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Shaytan is the third among them, so be very careful.
When young people are getting to know each other, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake.

aiight so when i get a date i'll tell my cuz to come with me ....
even though i did that

Well only if you truly ready for marriage.

people kno that but still dnt do it maybe is more of reputation thing then dating

i dnt kno all i kno is am confused i pray my 5 times a day but i dnt do muslim datin but i kno i will one day

young@muslim i respect ur topic's and i read sometimes i dnt reply coz i feel ashamed yea sweet take care

Salam alekum brother, farax finest a reputation thing? Who are people trying to impress? We should be trying to impress Allah swt with good deeds, what i mean about muslim dating is that is halal, a man and a woman should never been in a room by itsself because shyitan is the third person. Brother do not feel ashamed because nobody is truly perfect in this world however we can try, and inshallah enjoy Jannah one day, with Allah swt will.

this is a topic which i am very passionate about
i know dating is haram
i know its wrong what im thinkin but i believe that if i dont find a guy in my own way it probably end in divorce
maybe its tha age that i am at now being into to ghetto boyz
maybe its me maybe its tha saytaan i dont walahi

Boom sister, thats how i use to think! How am i going to find someone to marry if i dont go out there and date! That is the shiytan talking put your trust in Allah swt, Allah swt knows best, get to know the person but make sure your not byyourself with him! You can pray to Allahswt for help! There are other ways sister trust me!

thanks for ur advise sister
its hard though but runta ilaahi
life is a test this is just illahi testin us
its up to us if we give in to temptation

young@muslim i'm 2 a bit lacking in the information bout dating i'm curently dating someone who is also a fellow muslim brotha but i thin wats the point we've been 2gether far2 long and itz pointless coz i no itz rong but on the otha hand we both young and have our whole lifes ahead of us. what to do ?

Salam alekum sister, many people think like that, meaning i am young i got my whole life ahead of me! That is extremely wrong because only Allah swt knows when you going to die, you see 12 year olds dying what makes you think, you wont die tomorrow? The best advice is either to get married, or for your sake leave it!

^^Sis i know what you mean, in saying you've been practisn sutin xaraam soo long, thus you might aswell continue, but you no what walaal your kidding yourself. If you want to be closer to Allah(swt) aswell as your fella then i suggest you quit the dating and try a more healthy islamic means, and maybe you guys might 'get hitched' inshallah.....then all is well.

Good luck sis