With out offending anyone or dragging up old wound's pointing finger's naming name's or making anyone feel bad ... I was wondering if there was a way we could have a discussion about people having arguement's here and not letting it affect the whole forum ...because as a rule it generally (online and in real life) end's up with more people at each other's throat's than the one's who start it , and before you start sticking pin's in a mini me Voodoo doll and say who do I think i am.....
I do include myself in all of it . Its easy to look back and think ... mm maybe i should'nt of said that and i for one often feel like that and in my cack handed way what i'm trying to say is - arguement's are a fact of life.....

we can't please everyone all of the time ,but i personally have no problem with two individuals having a one on one ...it's only when well meaning people who rightly want to defend their friend's become involved that it blow's up in all kind's of proportion's and get's more out of hand ....Like .. how can a person go from zero to hero in 5/10 /15 post` with most forgetting who started the row and the majority feeling resentful because the original victim still want's justice

and the rest just want to tell every one to live and let live .
Is it possible to just let them get on with it and unless it involve's us directley see if it blow's over any quicker ...intervening even with the best intention's only prolong's the agony and open's up new wound's. maybe we could all call a truce .. i'm game ..see how it goes . I really would like to know what people think even if you think it's a bad idea . I always think it's like a scab ..easy to have a little pick.......
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Can go from 0-- to bitch in 0.3 seconds like the cow in town! you know who you are..
