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let me try and cut a long story short. i meet this dude around a year ago.

he was so sweet, everything was so perfect (even though nobody is) anyhow he was perfect for me. Tall dark and handsome, it was is charm that made me fall in love with him every time I saw him my ears would start to go cloudy, every time he phoned me my throat would begin to swell.

Every thing was going so well, until I realised that this couldn’t work I knew this straight away. I was having problems at home my education was starting to suffer, my attitude was disgusting. How could I be with somebody if my life was up side down ?

He phoned me every day I never picked up. I probably had 9 missed calls from him a day!!
He would text me I would hardly text back.
I said to myself he is so sweet how could I possibly hurt his feeling. So we ended thing ( promptly though).

now 10 months later after I sorted my li
fe out. I yearn for him to be apart of my life, so hollered at him on his 2 way. Heard nothing bk, until a few weeks back but he doesn’t seem the same, he wasn’t rude but he had deffinatly changed…
He calls me on privet and he won’t tell me it’s him even though am a 100% it’s him. He messes me around I told him am never gonna pick up his calls but I know I love him.

Every time I talks to me my whole body shivers. Feel like my heart is in my mouth and it’s gonna burst. I thought I’ve been in love before but I’ve never felt like this, I’ve never been so angry with a man like I have done him..

Thinking that he won’t phone me ever again is killing me.
Any advice..!!

relationships are like cabs. If u miss one, there's always another on the way.

there will be times when u'll laugh about all of this.

[quote="bug a boo"]let me try and cut a long story short. i meet this dude around a year ago.

he was so sweet, everything was so perfect (even though nobody is) anyhow he was perfect for me. Tall dark and handsome, it was is charm that made me fall in love with him every time I saw him my ears would start to go cloudy, every time he phoned me my throat would begin to swell.

Every thing was going so well, until I realised that this couldn’t work I knew this straight away. I was having problems at home my education was starting to suffer, my attitude was disgusting. How could I be with somebody if my life was up side down ?

He phoned me every day I never picked up. I probably had 9 missed calls from him a day!!
He would text me I would hardly text back.
I said to myself he is so sweet how could I possibly hurt his feeling. So we ended thing ( promptly though).

now 10 months later after I sorted my li
fe out. I yearn for him to be apart of my life, so hollered at him on his 2 way. Heard nothing bk, until a few weeks back but he doesn’t seem the same, he wasn’t rude but he had deffinatly changed…
He calls me on privet and he won’t tell me it’s him even though am a 100% it’s him. He messes me around I told him am never gonna pick up his calls but I know I love him.

Every time I talks to me my whole body shivers. Feel like my heart is in my mouth and it’s gonna burst. I thought I’ve been in love before but I’ve never felt like this, I’ve never been so angry with a man like I have done him..

Thinking that he won’t phone me ever again is killing me.
Any advice..!!
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I'll call you tonight, don't go on telling our business to everyone else OK.

thanks a bunch

Listen yea..you blew off the dude about 10 months ago and now you want him back . That doesn' t make sense to me.

Oh yeah, dating is Xaraam

Just get laid and you will get over him in a minute!

Allaa I wish u died-- we dont want stupid people like u in this world.

[quote="Basra-"]Allaa I wish u died-- we dont want stupid people like u in this world. [/quote]

i wish u tripped up on your jell rools you kastomo face

lady qac your right but the reason we finished was because of personal reasons not because i wanted to

Asalam Alaikom Warhmatullah Wbaraktuh

You call that love ?? dating is xaram so what ever you are doing is you following your own hawa [hormons shahawaat] and the footsteps of the devil, and that will lead you to more evil and the anger of Allah and his punishment.. if you are a muslim repent to Allah now and stop acting like a freaking kaafir when the hell is dating premissible in islam if you are a muslim talking about this dirt like it was normal what kind rules do you adhere ruls from the Quran I think not!!!!

You better repent to Allah, or if you love the devil more then Allah do not repent and die in that state thinking you will have time to repent later on and enter hell fire.. your pick !


In islam we LOVE for the sake of ALLAH and we HATE for the sake of ALLAH ...

but when someone followes the devil the love from his sake and hate for his sake. and this is one of these love and if you hate anything islamic then you are hating for the sake of the devil..

take a lesson form this or you know your way to the hell fire

may Allah guide Prophet Mohamed's Ummah salawat Allah w salamu calah!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck !

The girl asked for an advice. But instead she got lectures and do’s/don’ts.

[quote="Nabeela"]The girl asked for an advice. But instead she got lectures and do’s/don’ts.[/quote]



what kind of advice are you talking about ? as I gave her one from Quran and Sunnah .. To fear Allah if you know the meaning of fearing Allah with body, mind, heart and soul!

is there any other type of advice

Anagaa wax aragnay !

[quote="SoMaLiSiZz[what kind of advice are you talking about ? as I gave her one from Quran and Sunnah .. To fear Allah if you know the meaning of fearing Allah with body, mind, heart and soul! Anagaa wax aragnay ![/quote]

Whoaaa...Macantoo calm down......I never mentioned your name did I.

Take these recommendations from a real Xalimo my dear youngster.

Rule No.1

*Honesty is the best policy*

Acknowledge him about the certain lines which shouldn’t be crossed, in rigorous voice tone, and solemn face expressions. Replicating this comments:

*Waryaa Ciyar Ciyar Haa Ila So Aadin, Hadaad Wax Dooneyso Gurigeeyga Wa Taqana, Cideeyda Iga So Doono*...

Drop it like it’s hot young woman...

Rule No.2

Don’t give him any sort of signs that illustrates u adore him, in the same time don’t be callous. React as if he’s an ordinary individual, like all the other boys u met. Be more classy and impervious (an ice-queen), and don’t let him hit ur nerves, make u blush, or get a reaction out of u. If u showed him ur admiration, he’ll turn into big headed fool, thinking he’ll get the things he’s longing 4 @ bargain price.

Rule No.3

Ignore most of his calls, just 2 put him through simple-test. While he’s struggling 2 get in touch with u, act like a demanding person, who’s not ready 2 fritter away her precious time with impractical B/F, G/F thing. This will make him mull over his thoughts and re-consider about taking u back, but @ this point engaging in serious relationship. Consequently he’ll come back running like a famished dog, trying 2 make up with u.

No matter what he do 2 win over ur heart!!!. Don’t give him the kind of breathing-space he’s yearning 4, given that will only assist him take advantages of u. As far im concerned, men won’t respect u, unless u reverenced ur self. So earn his respect persuasively or lose the battle 2 him, ending up being used and abused. *Bear in mind that no.1 likes 2nd hand minxes*...

*Much Esteem and Reverence*

*Bless*

[quote="SoMaLiSiZz"]Asalam Alaikom Warhmatullah Wbaraktuh

You call that love ?? dating is xaram so what ever you are doing is you following your own hawa [hormons shahawaat] and the footsteps of the devil, and that will lead you to more evil and the anger of Allah and his punishment.. if you are a muslim repent to Allah now and stop acting like a freaking kaafir when the hell is dating premissible in islam if you are a muslim talking about this dirt like it was normal what kind rules do you adhere ruls from the Quran I think not!!!!

You better repent to Allah, or if you love the devil more then Allah do not repent and die in that state thinking you will have time to repent later on and enter hell fire.. your pick !


In islam we LOVE for the sake of ALLAH and we HATE for the sake of ALLAH ...

but when someone followes the devil the love from his sake and hate for his sake. and this is one of these love and if you hate anything islamic then you are hating for the sake of the devil..

take a lesson form this or you know your way to the hell fire

may Allah guide Prophet Mohamed's Ummah salawat Allah w salamu calah!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck ![/quote]

Assalamu Alaikum,

Sis, wallahi I love you for the sake of Allah (SWT) and I hope you don't mind me saying this, but wallahi sister...if I was this sister you were given this advice to I would've been hurt by words instead of taking it as an advice. Sister we are to be kind and merciful to our fellow brothers/sisters in faith and harsh against the disbelievers. Yes! this sister is doing something haram but honestly sister, there is better words (kind words) you could have used.
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Allah (SWT) tells us,

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in The way that is best"

And the saying of Him, the Glorified o­ne:

"So by Mercy from Allaah,(O Muhammad)you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude,and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you".

And The saying of His the Most Majestic regarding Musa and Haaroon:

"And speak to him with gentle speech that perhaps he may be reminded or fear"

And in an authentic Hadeeth, the Prophet(S) said:

"O Allaah, Whoever is a gaurdian over any of the affairs of my Ummaah and he is gentle with them, then be gentle with him. And whoever is a gaurdian over any of the affairs of my Ummaah, and he is harsh with them, then be harsh with him".

Read the rest of the article here sis ---> http://www.khalidmosque.com/en/modules. ... 388&page=1

Wallahi, again sis I love you for the sake of Allah (SWT) and respect you as my beautiful sister in Islam so I really hope you don't mind me saying what I just said. Mash'Allah your advice was really good and Insh'Allah I really, really hope the sister will take it but you must know sister that no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes and this sister might not really know that "dating" is haram in Islam. Before I started learning about Islam and I started practicing, I never knew dating or mixing with males was haram in Islam because no one ever taught me this, I knew "culturally" speaking I was not allowed to do this but not Islamically speaking...this sister could be in the same situation as I was back then. Allahu 'Alam

Better go and pray Isha

Salam

satay by the phone and i'll keep my fingers crossed for you!