That wretched Friendzone

gurey25 · Post by **gurey25** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 5:28 am

You've all hear of it, allot of you guys have fallen into it.
As you know men and women think differantly,
now allot of guys believe that they can meet a women,get to know her, develop a friendship and then possibly fall in love( Losers, this never happens)
Women think differantly however and their reaction depends on attraction and the jerk factor.
Now there are 2 ends of the spectrum for men.
on one side is the nice guy, sweet , charming lovable,insecure pussywhipped
on the other , the arogant, self centerd, confident, jerk.

Now women are hardwired geneticly to have an attraction to jerks,
while the nice guys fall into the friendzone.

Now what i want to know is what you guys do to avoid falling into the friendzone.

I must admit i am somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, and i have frequently fallen into the friendzone unintentionally. Usuall senario, you meet a girl shes attractive and like any red blooded man you want to bang her, but next thing you know a couple of weeks have passed and you have not banged her, instead she is calling you late at night complaining about her ex-boyfriend,
revealing extremely personal information, and wanting to take you shopping for godssake!. Confused

since i usually date more than one women at the time, this isnt so much of a problem
because if i fall into the friendzone with one or 2 of them, you have other parralell tracks to fall back on. Laughing

Now i dont condone this, its not for everyone and it is a bit expensive, this is why i want
some of your ideas.

Advocator · Post by **Advocator** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 5:42 am

The truth is, it's all about safety. Remember, for a woman, safety is always a foremost concern. That's why they spend so much time talking about helping her feel safe with you. Men often ask women, "if women are so horny, like they often say they are, why don't they just go up to a guy and say, "let's have sex"? There are two reasons. First, a woman doesn't want to have sex with a "friend," as it will make her feel like a slut, because she knows her friend well, and will have to see him again. It's too real to her.

On the other hand, she won't go up to a stranger and ask for sex, because a stranger could very well be dangerous . So she's in a bind...on the one hand, she can't have sex with a friend, without being reminded of her slutty behavior Laughing

every time she sees you (thus "wrecking the friendship"), and on the other hand, she can't ask a stranger for sex, because of the very real and intelligent concern that he might end up being a violent psycho. This safety fear is much more present for women than you probably think.

gurey25 · Post by **gurey25** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 5:50 am

No but they will go home with the jerk and not the niceguy.
happens all the time bro.

Advocator · Post by **Advocator** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 5:58 am

So true

Women love jerk, his very attractive to a them because he is exciting and unpredictable, and a wimp or a typical nice guy is perfect all the time, but is boring. So, the real question for you to examine is how can you be an exciting, passionate man without having to be a jerky in the process. It means make things exciting with a woman, not predictable, No wonder they love abusive husbands!.. Laughing

Post by **The-Screw** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 6:39 am

i don't understand why you would allow yourself to be in such a Predicament in the first place. just walk away.

The rebel · Post by **The rebel** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 6:45 am

Why I would be a friend with a girl in first place? Girls just using you and abusing you and you think you will get something farther by hanging around them.

Post by **The-Screw** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:01 am

[quote="The rebel"]Why I would be a friend with a girl in first place? Girls just using you and abusing you and you think you will get something farther by hanging around them.[/quote]

i hate to say it buddy, but that just sounds straight up homos*xual.

Smile

gurey25 · Post by **gurey25** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:05 am

[quote="The-Screw"]i don't understand why you would allow yourself to be in such a Predicament in the first place. just walk away.[/quote]

who said it was intentional,
no body falls down a well on purpose.

The rebel · Post by **The rebel** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:07 am

[quote] hate to say it buddy, but that just sounds straight up homos*xual.
[/quote]

No isn't believe me. I wouldn't want my womenfolk to be a friend with strange man hence I wont do that to another man. That what I call being a real man.

Post by **The-Screw** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:15 am

Gurey:
some things are very obvious sxb, and you can almost see how they might end. use your common sense and jump ship.

gurey25 · Post by **gurey25** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:19 am

Unfortunatley at that particular time, you judgment is curtailed.

and you are not in control anymore.

you little head runs the show, and he is not very bright

Post by **The-Screw** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 7:31 am

you know, come to think of it, it's a good thing that you're not listening to my advice, you're probably better off completely disregarding everything i say b/c i pretty much s*uck at these things...good luck dude.

Daanyeer · Post by **Daanyeer** » Sun Aug 06, 2006 9:59 am

Those WOMEN who PRFER jerks are not REAL women but ONE-TIME-USE who END into the SINGLE MOTHER WORLD.

If u are REAL man who is HIMSELF( NICE guy) not a CATCOPIER u would EASILY get INTELLIGENT real woman aka the WOULD-BE real MOTHER.

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