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Ok people I have a major Social observation to share. It is my belief that--and this has always been my observations, that -Somalis in general view their children as asserts but not actual humanbeings with feelings or seperate entitity limps.That they are Not an extension of them.I have observed this in my parents as all of you have in yours i am sure-- whether through subsconsciously or consciously. But anyway--lately i received a call from my elder sister --who brought me terrible news. She informed me over the phone that my cousin had a car accident and is sort of Paralyzed. She says--the doctor cannot actually give a guarantee that he is totally Paralyzed. However, with good physical therapy & all-- he can improve & walk again.(So we hope) But that was not what was shocking---pardon me- if i come out as 'unfeeeling' --the shocking thing comes later -which precisely has something to do with this post i am creating. The idea that We somalis are so heartless that --we are just absolutely walking stones. Anway, not to digress from my point-- the shocking thing was--my sister describes the visit to my aunt as horrifying. She says-- 'My aunt confided in me that she wished her son was dead--rather than in this useless condition' --My sister pleaded with my aunt--explaining that we are not in Africa & that he will get help & he will be fine. My aunt --continues to say-- "No--he is just useless now. I will sleep better if her he died today" Shocked



Now another shocker is---after moving on to another subject-- my sister insisted or rather reminded me to MUST go visit my aunt & see my cousin as well. In a freudian slip--- I said--- 'oh sure i will Walaal,--- i will stop by to give my Condolences! Just like that--without thinking! --i said these exact words! My good hearted sister --was shocked!! She yelled at me ---& literally awakening me & making me realize what i just said. She said what Condolences??? --The boy is not dead. Oh My God---Basra-- u are worst than our aunt!!! Mad I am telling u, i was speechless at this busting.Obviously, by this slip, it shows--i agreed with my aunt subcosciously at least. In fact, i am worst than my aunt if you look at it-- i had already killed him in my mind. Shocked Otherwise how could i have said i will go to offer my condolences??? Shocked


Now knowing me & my ego-- i blamed the freudian slip--as just a 'slip'. Or that i agree with my aunt since she is my elder-- i respect my elders--if not mimic my elders in a massive subconscious level. Laughing Laughing Laughing



So my question is : Are Somalis heartless?? Do they treat their kids as wealth or asserts?? I have another aunt who has 10 children-- i asked her one day-- why did she have all the kids? She said-- well --children are like eggs or chicken--some will go bad & others good- or some can be run over by a bus- some will turn alcoholistes--others dhiloyiins & others good-- so its a good bet to be secured.(I am thinking what if all go bad?)



Naturally,--i was speechless! Do we come from a bad bad bad culture?? Or is it just my family??? IF it is the latter then ---Gosh i need a new family--because i think i am being influenced to be heartless without my permission! Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing
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Yes somalis are heartless creatures we dont fall far from the gene pool.Anyway i was expecting you to feature me in one of your dull stories you when you're bored.Please do so in the future if you ever decide to come back as the white innocent girl who all came to love.
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Heartless, no. Strong, yes. Also, we have a grip on life and reality and not into nonsensical things.



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What happened to your grammar?
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She probably ate it. Lol
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Deep---oh shut up will ya! Razz Laughing Laughing




Hannah i am deeply surprised u are not offended by this, for i know u & my sister have the same sweet heart. Dont u think my aunt was out of line to wish her son dead?? Confused Shocked

Mikey i did the edit job! looooool Laughing
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No, nayaa...xageed ka fakartaa? She didn't wish her son dead, she wished him a better State. Id imagine if I had a son who was in an extremely bad condition, Id wish for him to not got through it aswell.


Besides, she doesn't really mean it, literally. She just wants the best for her son, what is wrong with that?
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Post by DEEP_SOUL »

Basra i remember you when you joined the net in 2001. How come it said that you joined here in 2004? Laughing

I like when you acted like a white girl,i felt better inside.You're Real,unlike me,i'm like confused and depress.i feel like you're my older sister who protects me from the ugly girls here.Please bring those dull stories you used to make. Crying or Very sad
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Awaits Basra's litter of Caghdeer kids


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Hugo Chavze...I think i have a crush on him.I dont know what he said but he 's like the compassionate guy i ever seen. Cool
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DeepSoul: Word. Chavismo Rocks !
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Waxani xageey ka timid, horta. So, annoying. Ish.
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[quote="*HannaH*"]No, nayaa...xageed ka fakartaa? She didn't wish her son dead, she wished him a better State. Id imagine if I had a son who was in an extremely bad condition, Id wish for him to not got through it aswell.


Besides, she doesn't really mean it, literally. She just wants the best for her son, what is wrong with that?[/quote]


Hannah No --please--lets get real here. Shocked


You can't maintain---that my aunt wishing her son dead is wishing the best for him?? and then say she really doesn't mean it.?? HUH??? Confused



The thing is-- her love should be unconditional--at least thats what a proper mother should feel. This crap philosophy of being 'strong' & blah blah--waaa --crap oo --gabasaar qurux badaan Kucoversaan. Magaratay?


Doqonyeey---- Laughing Laughing Laughing



Deep soul@loool


Awwwww how sweet dear-- so i am your role model?? Oh that makes aunt Basra really habby' dear ... Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing
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Naayaahee horta, ma adhi baad la soo kortay misa dad? You'd think at this age you'd know all about and even embrace your Somaliness.


Dhageyso, it's not about unconditional love, it's not even about her. It's about his well being., maad garan?? I dont know si kaloon kugu sheege....naa ha ii wareerin.
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Hannah


Rolling Eyes Rolling Eyes ......Maybe u pretend to have a good heart. Or maybe you are Ultra Somali. I dont know which is which! Laughing Laughing Laughing
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