Dear Abdi ADVICE COLUMN
Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 3:11 pm
The first letter comes from Massachusetts:
Dear Abdi,
I am a 29yr old Somali female from Charlestown, Massachusetts. My current baby daddy, Luugoyo Cabbas, I suspect is cheating on me. His behavior has changed. Luugoyo has started to go the gym and exercising a lot. Just the other day, I found a bottle of Rogaine in the bathroom medicine cabinet. He has started to dress in Abercombie and Fitch instead of the Marshall's & AJ Wright. Luugoyo has also started to work late night shifts in his cab.
Luugoyo was never concerned with his appearance since I have known him and never worked the night shifts due to fear of crime. I suspect he is cheating on me yet I have been unable to catch him in the act.
Things have never been the same since he found out that I faked the pregnancy to get him to marry me.
What should I do ?
Lonely in Boston,
B.
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Dear Lonely in Boston B.,
I do not believe you should feel concerned. Your baby daddy is not cheating on you. A man can decide to turn over a new leaf and become concerned about his appearance without necessarily cheating. My advice to you is to stop being paranoid and to appreciate the new changes your baby daddy has made.
It was unfair of you to pull the "I am pregnant trick." to coerce him into marrying you. However, let sleeping dogs lie and don't let your relationship fall victim to your paranoia.
Sincerely,
Abdi.
Dear Abdi,
I am a 29yr old Somali female from Charlestown, Massachusetts. My current baby daddy, Luugoyo Cabbas, I suspect is cheating on me. His behavior has changed. Luugoyo has started to go the gym and exercising a lot. Just the other day, I found a bottle of Rogaine in the bathroom medicine cabinet. He has started to dress in Abercombie and Fitch instead of the Marshall's & AJ Wright. Luugoyo has also started to work late night shifts in his cab.
Luugoyo was never concerned with his appearance since I have known him and never worked the night shifts due to fear of crime. I suspect he is cheating on me yet I have been unable to catch him in the act.
Things have never been the same since he found out that I faked the pregnancy to get him to marry me.
What should I do ?
Lonely in Boston,
B.
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Dear Lonely in Boston B.,
I do not believe you should feel concerned. Your baby daddy is not cheating on you. A man can decide to turn over a new leaf and become concerned about his appearance without necessarily cheating. My advice to you is to stop being paranoid and to appreciate the new changes your baby daddy has made.
It was unfair of you to pull the "I am pregnant trick." to coerce him into marrying you. However, let sleeping dogs lie and don't let your relationship fall victim to your paranoia.
Sincerely,
Abdi.