Sister you must READ: successful wife in islam!

[Naaima]

1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband.
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah Ta'ala has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.

2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting.
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.

3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them.
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

4. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.

5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A man's secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasulullah (saw) told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.

6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.

7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."

8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasulullah (saw) taught us that any woman who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So… please him.

9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.

10. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah Ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala - into Jannah.

And Allah ta'ala knows best.

[#1baller]

[quote="Naaima"]1. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband.
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah Ta'ala has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.

2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting.
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.

3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them.
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

4. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.

5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A man's secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasulullah (saw) told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.

6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.

7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."

8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasulullah (saw) taught us that any woman who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So… please him.

9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.

10. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah Ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala - into Jannah.

And Allah ta'ala knows best.[/quote]


Naaima,

How realistic is this in the present day? I mean its good to talk about it, but honestly, do women look at it in this light? I mean i read post by the likes of Basra and lil Cutie, and I doubt they'd do anything that you stated.

[Padishah]

No one's going to force them, if that's what you're implying.

[#1baller]

[quote="Padishah"]No one's going to force them, if that's what you're implying.[/quote]


Padishah,

Never implied that. Why does everything have to be political for you? My comments have NOTHING to do with Islam....its about women's perspectives in general.

[gedo_gurl]

Baller, they are not RULES they are suggestions. People are different and relationships work out different to one another. Just a piece of advice, thats all.

[kadarre]

A wife who can fulfill 8 is priceless for everything else there is.......

[Naaima]

[quote="gedo_gurl"]Baller, they are not RULES they are suggestions. People are different and relationships work out different to one another. Just a piece of advice, thats all.[/quote]


Salam sister lol i couldn't say better what you has already said umm you are in my thoughts

[#1baller]

[quote="kadarre"]A wife who can fulfill 8 is priceless for everything else there is.......[/quote]


Fully agree with you here.

[#1baller]

[quote="gedo_gurl"]Baller, they are not RULES they are suggestions. People are different and relationships work out different to one another. Just a piece of advice, thats all.[/quote]

you make a very good point, however, the thing is those" suggestions" as you put it, is hard work for most females period.

[+chilli]

Baller, allow fishing for arguments mate...

And don't under estimate a good wife,

[LiQaaye_TDH]

Ladies remember, This is one of the ways you could get to jannah

[Alluring]

Naaima, good luck with that. I will never be a servant to a man, in a million years.

Allah(swt) stated numerous times that we women are equal or even greater than men.

[#1baller]

[quote="Alluring"]Naaima, good luck with that. I will never be a servant to a man, in a million years.

Allah(swt) stated numerous times that we women are equal or even greater than men.[/quote]

That's why you're single and hopeless:lol:

[Alluring]

Who said that I wanted to date?

[Naaima]

@1baller lool, jokarad

@alluring thanks for wishing luck, inshalah i want to fullfill it with all my heart