DOSE OUR FRIENDS REFLECT WHO WE ARE?

[HELWAA]

Asalaam aleykum

Your friends are your friends for a reason, whether this be because of your money, who you are (your status), because they are alone or they see you as someone who knows how to enjoy himself, or perhaps they want a ‘joke and some coke’.

The Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said:
"You are in your friends' religion. Therefore you should note with whom you are making friends".

As Muslims our aim in life is different from the rest, we want to get into paradise and to guard ourselves from Hell. We are here to worship and obey Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala). Allah Ta'ala has placed upon us an honourable duty, which is to be the leaders of the world by spreading the message of Islam.

Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) says in the Qur'an:
"You are the best community evolved for mankind, you enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and you believe in Allah."
[surah ali' Imran; 3:109]

Our friends and company could either be an obstacle in our way by being helpers in our downfall to Hell, or they could be a source of help and support by making it easier for us to reach Paradise, which is the true life, the eternal life and a life full of enjoyment.

Allah says in the Qur'an:
"On the day when the wrongdoer gnaws his hands, he will say; Ah! would that I had chosen the straight way with the messenger of Allah! Alas for me! Would that I had never taken such one for a friend! He verily led me astray from the reminder after it had reached me. Satan was ever the deserter of man."
[surah Furqan; 27-29]



Choosing Your Friends

If your aim was to be an athlete, a sports personality, then you would try to be with people who also want to become athletes or those who are already athletes. You would learn from them, train with them, go to the sport centre and even hang around with them, in fact you would try to do all that you can to achieve your goal.

Similarly as Muslims our goal is Paradise and not Hell. Therefore it only seems logical that we should try to arrange our life and activities to be around those who also share the same goal and at the same time stay away from those who have chosen another way, those who are forgetful, wicked and commit sins. A true friend shows you success in this world and the hereafter whereas a misguided friend is trickery and cunning.

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) has given us some advice when choosing friends:

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was asked: "Who is the person that can be the best friend"! He replied: "He who helps you when you remember God and reminds you when you forget him". He was then asked: "and which friend is the worst?" To which he replied: "He who does not help you when you remember God and does not remind you when you forget Him".

How many of your friends remind you to pray when you’re busy with work or just playing? How many of your friends make you forget Allah and take you away from Him by keeping you occupied with something or asking you to indulge in a sinful act: "let’s go and checkout the club bro! ... let’s take some weed". These friends are not your real friends; they will desert you when you are in need.

Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) says:
"Friends on that day will be enemies to each other except those who kept their duty (to Allah). O my slaves! For you there is no fear this day nor shall you grieve"
[surah Zukhruf:67-68]

Friends are those who love you not for who you are or what you have but purely for Allah. Those who are with you in times of happiness and also in sadness. They help you in preference to themselves.

Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radiAllahu anhu) states that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: "There will be some slaves of Allah who will be neither from the prophets or martyrs but on account of their high position before Allah the prophets and martyrs will envy them. The people asked who will these be? The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied those persons who loved each other for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala even though there was no blood relation, they give their wealth to one another. By God, from their faces light will shine and they will be riding the light. When the people will be shuddering with fear, they will have no fear and when the people will be sad they will have no sorrow."
[Abu Dawud]



wcs

[HELWAA]

surround your ur self with good ppl and you will be good as well

[Naaima]

Salam alaikum søster

mashalah mashalah, may allah subhana wata alah bless you, thanks a lot for sharing with us, .."your friends tell who you are"

[Sakhraan]

we used to be good friends I miss you like Boosaaso misses the rain.




SAKHRAAN>SEEKER OF T & J.

[HELWAA]

wcs sis

exactly Naima our friends is who we are ...if your friends is gaalo you gonna end up acting like gaalo as well

[eyes-only]

nice post Helwaa

I totally believe your friends influence you. But sometimes people just change on their own, like there were so many hopelessly lost who did a 180 and are now maasha'Allah.

many who used to be like Sakhraan who are now wadaado

[The-Screw]

The question is "Do Our Friends Reflect Who We Are" not "Does", don't take it offensive, its okay. now, to answer your question, in some cases i don't think it does. people just say that, i've seen people who pray and are good hearted people hang out with others who are into clubbing, drinking and womanizing. its about how you handle yourself really, some people are strong and don't give in.

[Naaima]

[quote="HELWAA"]wcs sis

exactly Naima our friends is who we are ...if your friends is gaalo you gonna end up acting like gaalo as well [/quote]

No you can't sis, as long you have a STRONG IMAN your kufar friends can change you...hvis ikke tja så er man jo en let offer til at påvirke

[Naaima]

[quote="The-Screw"]The question is "Do Our Friends Reflect Who We Are" not "Does", don't take it offensive, its okay. now, to answer your question, in some cases i don't think it does. people just say that, i've seen people who pray and are good hearted people hang out with others who are into clubbing, drinking and womanizing. its about how you handle yourself really, some people are strong and don't give in.[/quote]

well said, it depends how strong your iman is!

[Sakhraan]

Helwaa quruxley.......are you ignoring me????..........ma sidanaa inoo danbayse




SAKHRAAN>SEEKER OF T & J.