Insha'Allah you are all in the best of health and iman
i haven't been a member of snet for long but i have seen the most nasty and immoral 2 word sentence in the somali language quite a few times already. Brothers and sisters please don't say 'hooyadaa was' to each other, it has become a habbit for some somali people to say this. If someone has done something to you, why cuss their mum? I know not evrybody in here says that but can we all please try to remember that Jannah lies at our mothers' feet!
'Love and respect your mother, as much as possible, because she is the most deserving of people of her son’s good companionship.
She is the one who made her womb a vessel for you and nourished you from her breast. You have no option but to love her. The fitrah (natural inclination of man) calls you to love her. Love between mothers and children and children and mothers is something that Allah has instilled even in animals, so it is even more befitting for the children of human beings, and for Muslims in particular.
Taking care of her and looking after her affairs if she needs that; this is a debt that rests on the child’s shoulders. Did she not take care of him when he was a child and stay up with him at night and bear it all with patience?
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship…†[al-Ahqaaf 46:15]
This even take precedence over jihad if there is a conflict between the two.
‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: “A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and asked him for permission to participate in jihad. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to him, ‘Are your parents alive?’ He said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘Then your jihad is with them.’†(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2842; Muslim, 2549)
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “say not to them a word of disrespect†[al-Israa’ 17:23]
If Allah has forbidden us even to say “uff†[paraphrased as “a word of disrespect†in the translation of the meaning of the aayah] to our parents, then how about someone who hits them?!
After she dies, it is Sunnah to honour her by maintaining ties with those whom she used to keep in touch with, such as her relatives and friends.
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“The best of righteous deeds is for a man to keep in touch with his father’s friends after he dies.†(Narrated by Muslim, 2552).
Salaam
...............Hooya knows though!