Would you marry your brother's widow?

[CaliQase]

Waa arin adag.Caruurta agoonta ah caawiya dadow..ajar weyn ba ka helaysan

Waxaasaa kaa marwa ah

[salool]

Waa arin adag.Caruurta agoonta ah caawiya dadow..ajar weyn ba ka helaysan

Helping is different than marrying the widow. Of course the family must help..

Well even if the uncle wants help the kids, he cant come and visit the widow alone.Diinta ma ogola, sidaas daraadeed waxa la qaatey inu iska guursado.Marba haduuba masruufayo oo ciyaalka ka war hayo.

ma sahlana kolay, ilaahy nagauma keeno.

[HorseedS]

Yea. I'm my brothers keeper.

[eliteSomali]

It is an old custom used to be done to preserve wealth and property owned by the deceased within the family but there is really no excuse to do it today.

[AbkoowDhiblaawe]

it's just disgusting. I'd stay close to my brother's widow and help her financially and raising the kids with her be a father figure for caruurta walaalkay. But i would never marry her thats a no go zone. Even if she re married i would take the kids from her aniga korsanayo i wouldn't allow nin islaamed raise my nephews/nieces.

[gegiroor]

Dumaal and xigsiisin are designed for the safety and the well being of the kids not for you to scam your dead brother's family.

And the widow as well.

[CaliQase]

Unfortunately not too many people get it.

[xiimaaya]

It is becoming an ongoing trend where Somali men marry their brother's widow. I understand if our forefathers did it way back in the olden age but what's the excuse now? I think it's disgusting sleeping your brother's widow. How about the kids? They will get confused, what if she has kids for you, are the kids first cousins or half siblings? Getting up from your dead brother's bed is not only disrespectful but also ceeb.

What if your brother didn't want you to marry his widow, he will basically roll in his grave.

Naag caqli yare baatahay who is also too westernized ah.

Sidaa isku dhaan

[PrinceDaadi]

Circumstance dictates.

[Fey]

I would take the kids with me. They would be raised by my family and if he refuses to hand them over, we will take him to court.

Even if she re married i would take the kids from her aniga korsanayo i wouldn't allow nin islaamed raise my nephews/nieces.

You would remove a child (children) from their otherwise competent and capable parent? How is this in the best interest of the child? Is this even something you considered? Are you aware that if this was a legitimate custody case the child's wishes would be acknowledged? Very absurd.

On the matter at hand; if two such people want to get married, swell.

[waryaa]

I'd never do it. How can u get satisfaction from your dead brother's domain It would be a constant reminder of something you want to suppress. Even if u shrug off all the negatives, u'd be in competition with your dead bro for her heart.

In reality, something that looks very strange to you can be someone else's dear custom. In this case, the other side's argument is to keep the woman in the family so that she doesn't take off with the kids.

[Basra-]

Caqli

I approve your idea. The kids will fair well, they will have their mother and adeer watching over them!

[Lamagoodle]

It depends on the context!!
In the diaspora, it is the welfare state that shoulders the responsibility; back in Africa, things are different. Basically, a widow or a divorcee (generally) have no economic might .

I think if we remove the issue of sex(which appears to be on the minds of many respondents), there is a family cohesion and economic side .

I know a guy who married the wives of his two dead brothers.

I have also heard of EEDO Dumaal.