Maasha Allaah Beautiful Nikaax

[Cinque Mtume]

Xamud, awoowe, I had no choice, my parents been asking some of my goodlucking cousins wether they wanted to marry me, behind my back (i was in a state of shock when they told me they did this) but they all said yes my father said haye mid dooro, or do you have an eye on someone yourself? thats when I had to tell him I got my own girl on deck and I dont need them to play the role as matchmakers i was furious that night and thought I was in a nightmare walahi

[Xamud.]

Awoowe they put you in a very difficult situation, but hey look at the bright side, your cousins didnt turn you down

[1nemansquad]

1nemansquad, dude right now those kinda weddings are the norm in Somalia, 70s and 80s lahayne

do you mean mixed weddings? if yes then of course they are the norm now but not to the magnitude of earlier decades; my point is Somalis are more reluctant to have big, prolific mixed weddings now then they were any other time in the past

[Nanees]

XF, never, I try to avoid the subject of marriage as much as I can. I want to play it cool, don't want her to think I want to get married for the sake of getting married.

I think this is a serious problem. I think a lot of people jump into marriage, just to say they're married or get it over with. I always found it odd.

I don't understand this at all, marriage is a headache and an immense responsibility, why would somebody do it if they're not ready for it? That entire thought process confuses me.

Cinque lool no probs bro. Marriage can be tough but it's a Rahma from Allah, don't complicate it! Good luck!!

[TheblueNwhite]

Imagine her holding those pair of earrings and telling the kids, "your daddy gave them to me the night he asked me to marry him" and one of the kids (boy) would say "daddy you're the man".

Giving her a gift that shows you put more thought into it speaks volumes bro. That's a common knowledge.

Plus while she's busy admiring the gift it will give the break you need to gather your thoughts and muster up the courage to finally unload the million dollar question. The element of suprise works like magic in these situations.

1Man- i learned from my old man that women love gifts.

[Saraxnow]

^omg, that would mean that she cannot say anything but 'yes' otherwise she loses the gift

[Alphanumeric]

^omg, that would mean that she cannot say anything but 'yes' otherwise she loses the gift

Lol, think you've just proved the power of gifts over women.

[Cinque Mtume]

Awoowe they put you in a very difficult situation, but hey look at the bright side, your cousins didnt turn you down

That was nice to hear I gotta admit, but the pressure is hitting the roof! Literally I was just chilljn, being carefree, next thing I know I feel like my fate was already decided: Im gonna be a married man in 2012 wether Im ready for it or not nobody gives a fok




Bluenwhite, after giving your idea some thought, I think it will be awesome, I can already imagine how it will make things easier. The jewellery in combo with me proposing to her, its gonna be too much for her senses, we might gonna need an ambulance

[caburiye1]

Ok Guys, You were giving Mtume good advices till one of you suggested buying her necklaces, ear rings, clothes bla bla.

It is harder to figure out the best necklace/earing for a girl than getting married to her and have kids with her.

Sxb tell her. " Abaayo waxaan doonayaah in aan reer Muslim ah oo xalaal ah diso ee maygu taageeraysaah."

Sweet and Simple.

[Saraxnow]

^omg, that would mean that she cannot say anything but 'yes' otherwise she loses the gift

Lol, think you've just proved the power of gifts over women.

Seriously this is called Emotional Blackmailing.

And what if she says no, he cant take it back

[quark]

cinque, u got plenty of good advice here bro. just go for it. btw, i was in similar situation

I've never seen any nikaax performed in either way. I've always learnt the woman must have a representative speaking for her. Always. A particular wedding in my family was similar to the first, but instead of the women being in the same room, the camera linked to a projector in an adjacent one.

My problem with Somali weddings is that the girls no how to party, but the dudes, it's like "eat your bariis and gtfo". That ain't right. After the nikaax of a good friend of mine, we played COD for 9 hours till he got his wife. I don't know if it's just my small circle of friends or if this is how it usually goes.

WTF?

[1nemansquad]

The Jewellery is a bad idea, of course women love a gift and you should give your woman a gift but not at that particular time when you're asking her to marry you, NAW man; its not on

Give if to her after if you like but not right there and then

[Nanees]

Bro if she's as religious as you say she is she's not gonna accept a gift from someone who hasn't spoken to her dukes yet. If you want I'd suggest just buying a charm for a bracelet the day you propose and getting it engraved, one on the day you speak with her family, then the day of the soo doonis, the nikax ect and then give er a charm bracelet with Jose charms on it ninjeeydi markaad tahay. Your already worried abt proposing jut concentrte on that, you don't want to stress out on picking the perfect gift as well lol

[Nanees]

Freaking auto correct, lol, Jose = those, ninjeeydi = ninkeeydi

[Alphanumeric]

Buy her a bag of Dorritos.

Sara, lol, that's the deal. Either she's in or she ain't lol.