Parents and younger Somalis of today!

[1nemansquad]

How much do our parents truly worth to us?
From what I have observed right here in this forum and also in the true world we live in, it's not much. Frankly the sum of in roundabout way disapproval and the so slight regard some of us have for their parents is to a certain extent fear-provoking. At times it seems like some of us are trying to get even with their parents for whatsoever motive.

I don't know about the rest of you but I thought one thing we Muslims/Somalis pride ourselves in was the fact that we prized our parents and cherished them above all else. But of late it looks as if that too is dying out just like everything else that was good. And to most people's shocker, this new tendency is on the raise among young Somali women than it is amongst the men. The number of girls that are leaving their parents homes, running away, having fights, at odds with the two people they owe so much to is just mind-boggling. I don't care what you say 'PARENTS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT' as far as I'm concerned.

In the old days, Somalis used to say 'gabdhaha baa waalidka u naxariis badan' is this still the case anymore? I certainly don't think so, do you?
I think the roles are overturned; It's the men that are 'baari or u naxariis badan' to the parents at the present time not the women.

Maxey kula tahey?

[Enlightened~Sista]

I have always admired how my brother composed himself when my mum or dad were shouting at him for whatever reason...mashaAllah. I find it difficult especially when i feel im not being listened to. I was a difficult child growing up...banged doors, answered back..the kid from hell as far as my parents were concerned.

The problem with somali parents...is they dont know how to parent...more often than not they resort to physical means of disciplining.i.e violence..and they are completely ignorant of our Prophet (pbuh) advice on how to bring up kids..the Qur'anic ayah 'wala taqulahuma uffin' and dont say 'uff' to them has been shoved on our faces one too many times. I dont disagree with the verse but its clear Allah s.w.t is talking about elderly parents.We have to respect them and obey them but that doesnt mean they are right 100% of the time.

[1nemansquad]

As a child growing up or even my teen years, I was shouted at, beat down and I mean straight ass whooping; all kinds of physical disciplining you name I had it and I'm appreciative of it and love him for it because if I wasn't for the fear of my father I don't think I would've stayed away from a lot of the things that I have stayed away from. However I would not use the same methods to discipline my kids (insha'allah) but I wont express disapproval of it either for the reason that it works, perhaps not for all but it does work.

[DANGIRL]

Parents are responsible for teaching their children from right and wrong. When children is not disciplined well , why would they behave appropriately toward their parents??

[muktaar]

most of the youth who grew up in the west
are fuked up in the head
it aint easy raising a child in the west
somalis need to take their kids 2 muslim countries

not 2 long ago 2 of my neighbours daughters ran away with ajnabi men
their mom crys every single nite

i trully believe that malis have lost a whole generation

[PINK_BUNNY]

I don't know what you've heard....The sayin still remains the same!!

I have the best parents in the WORLD!!! My parents don't practice physical violence. Instead my parents like 2 talk and I mean talk. We have family meetings that can last from 30 min to 2 hrs......I think talking does more discipline than hitting.

[FAH1223]

I love my parents. I always like talking with them one on one...alxamdullah

[MJ-Pride]

most of the youth who grew up in the west
are fuked up in the head
it aint easy raising a child in the west
somalis need to take their kids 2 muslim countries

not 2 long ago 2 of my neighbours daughters ran away with ajnabi men
their mom crys every single nite

i trully believe that malis have lost a whole generation

I Can swear that I know three sisters all grew up in Saudi Arabia(Two of them were actually born in Saudi Arabia). They came to Minnesota in 2004 and I happen to get to know the middle one who was 20 at the time. She was wearing Hijaab that day and fast forward in 2006, I saw her wearing a revealing t-Shirt with sneakers and getting into a movie with a Liberian. Her two other sisters are waste too, with one of them getting pregnant and escaping to Ohio

The bottom line is, No matter how goo the parents are, it all depends the inner qualities of the person.

[HELWAA]

The Prophet (S.A.W.) said that the parents of a person are his Heaven or Hell.

This shows that if a person obeys his parents and attends to their needs and comforts and keeps them happy, he will attain Paradise. On the other hand, if he is rude and disobedient to them and offends them by ignoring their feelings or by causing them grief in any other way, his place shall be in Hell.

The time that the parents need to be looked after most carefully is in their old age, and to serve them devotedly in that state is most pleasing to Allah and it is an easy way to attain Paradise.

Abu Hurairah (R.A.) relates that the Prophet (S.A.W.) said :May he be disgraced, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced. "Who?" The Sahaaba enquired. The person whose parents, or any one of them, attain old-age during his life-time and he does not earn Paradise (by being kind-hearted and dutiful to them)!

[HELWAA]

I don't know what you've heard....The sayin still remains the same!!

I have the best parents in the WORLD!!! My parents don't practice physical violence. Instead my parents like 2 talk and I mean talk. We have family meetings that can last from 30 min to 2 hrs......I think talking does more discipline than hitting.

I agree 100%...talk has more effect then beating...sitting down with ur child and give them ur ultimate attention without any disturbing and explain things for them in calm way gives more result walle.

[surrender]

i gotta give heads up to somali parents, they are truly worth mentioning and hope they receive the greatets ajar in looking after us. religous or not somali parents are not like other parents, they have extra care, that extra something-wow factor that other parents dont have.

but i must admit single somali mothers are worth billion doller parents. walahi its brings tears to my eyes growing up as a single parents house hold, how much my mother worked so hard to bring us up. and sometimes i sit in room crying, and thinking, OMG i will be punished on the day of judgement because my mother worked soooo hard for us. she became our mother, father, friend, my leader and guidiance. and what have i done for her-nothing!!! i didnt even take her to the hajj. all the years of troubles and i didnt even build a one bedroom house for her in her fav place-somalia!!! im so screwed in akhirah, may allah help me because without my moms blessing i will never reach to the gates of heaven. we need to change our attittude towards our parents. after all its for our own good. the better we treat our parents, the more chance we have in going to jannah!!

[PYT20]

i gotta give heads up to somali parents, they are truly worth mentioning and hope they receive the greatets ajar in looking after us. religous or not somali parents are not like other parents, they have extra care, that extra something-wow factor that other parents dont have.

but i must admit single somali mothers are worth billion doller parents. walahi its brings tears to my eyes growing up as a single parents house hold, how much my mother worked so hard to bring us up. and sometimes i sit in room crying, and thinking, OMG i will be punished on the day of judgement because my mother worked soooo hard for us. she became our mother, father, friend, my leader and guidiance. and what have i done for her-nothing!!! i didnt even take her to the hajj. all the years of troubles and i didnt even build a one bedroom house for her in her fav place-somalia!!! im so screwed in akhirah, may allah help me because without my moms blessing i will never reach to the gates of heaven. we need to change our attittude towards our parents. after all its for our own good. the better we treat our parents, the more chance we have in going to jannah!!

OMG, thank you...for making me cry ....no seriously that was beautiful. We're slowly turning into 'modernised' versions of what our traditions and religion teaches us and it's not benefiting us at all.

[HELWAA]

i gotta give heads up to somali parents, they are truly worth mentioning and hope they receive the greatets ajar in looking after us. religous or not somali parents are not like other parents, they have extra care, that extra something-wow factor that other parents dont have.

but i must admit single somali mothers are worth billion doller parents. walahi its brings tears to my eyes growing up as a single parents house hold, how much my mother worked so hard to bring us up. and sometimes i sit in room crying, and thinking, OMG i will be punished on the day of judgement because my mother worked soooo hard for us. she became our mother, father, friend, my leader and guidiance. and what have i done for her-nothing!!! i didnt even take her to the hajj. all the years of troubles and i didnt even build a one bedroom house for her in her fav place-somalia!!! im so screwed in akhirah, may allah help me because without my moms blessing i will never reach to the gates of heaven. we need to change our attittude towards our parents. after all its for our own good. the better we treat our parents, the more chance we have in going to jannah!!

Well said sis ..so true ....Indeed singel mothers are the once who struggel almost everyday with their children day and night...may allah bless them...and dont worry sis ur mother is already proud..allah already blessed her with a devoted daughter like you ..mashallah.

[gedo_gurl]

Parents are second only to Allah swt in their capacity to forgive. Children are only second to Beni Israel in their capacity to be ungrateful.

[Hyperactive]

Parents are second only to Allah swt in their capacity to forgive. Children are only second to Beni Israel in their capacity to be ungrateful.

lol been madan shegin.