Biggest Reason I Wouldn't Marry A Second Wife

[Murax]

For someone who has a Grandfather that had almost 30 kids with different Wives, and having a lot Uncles/Aunts who are "Half Bros/Sis" with My Parents, and also looking at other family who married more than one Wife the bottom line is Your kids with the different Wives will flat out hate each other and chances are You in trying to juggle relationships with both Wives (Families) will end up not being particular close to Your kids. Bottom line is most Women if they're not happy will bash the Father in front of the kids, which is irrisponsible in my book but hey it is what it is which leads to the kids growing up bitter and resentful of their Dad. Sure on the surface it doesn't sound too bad at all, but the juice is just not worth the squeeze.

[Somaliman50]

sxb, what happened to making your own qabiil? hal bah reer laguma noqdo sxb

[Sealion]

For someone who has a Grandfather that had almost 30 kids with different Wives, and having a lot Uncles/Aunts who are "Half Bros/Sis" with My Parents, and also looking at other family who married more than one Wife the bottom line is Your kids with the different Wives will flat out hate each other and chances are You in trying to juggle relationships with both Wives (Families) will end up not being particular close to Your kids. Bottom line is most Women if they're not happy will bash the Father in front of the kids, which is irrisponsible in my book but hey it is what it is which leads to the kids growing up bitter and resentful of their Dad.

My father (may he rest in peace and be in jannah) married once and had only two children. His father had 21, left my grandmother while she was pregnant with her 9th child, for a second wife after she refused to let him have one. All of his children from his first marriage hated him, they have no communication with the second family. You can't have all those kids and be a good father sorry.

[Murax]

Abukar,

As someone who comes from a langaab juffo of Sade I should be thinking the opposite man, but forget that qabiil stuff family is more important



SeaLion,


Yea thats exactly what I'm talking about.

[greenday]

So not because you respect and love your first wife and don't want to hurt her?

[Somaliman50]

Abukar,

As someone who comes from a langaab juffo of Sade I should be thinking the opposite man, but forget that qabiil stuff family is more important



SeaLion,


Yea thats exactly what I'm talking about.

murax, sxb you should have high ambitions dee. ilmaha waa nimco ilaah, the more the merrier. hal xaas qiyaastii waxay kuu dhali kartaa 15 kids, kawaran hadii 3 ama 4 xaas yeelatid, markaasi adaaba juffo ah . i always wish i could be the patriach of a great big family, living in a big house in wardhiigley, all my grandkids would snuggle up and i wud tell them funny stories of the past

[SultanOrder]

So not because you respect and love your first wife and don't want to hurt her?

[Nabeela]

Murax, had an epiphany, stop trying to change his mind

[Coeus]

So not because you respect and love your first wife and don't want to hurt her?

[Nanees]

So not because you respect and love your first wife and don't want to hurt her?

you must be confusing this place with hindunet.com

[Saraxnow]

I had a grandfather aun who had 3 wives and they had many kids, but they were a tight bunch and closely-knit family and strangely I never heard of major fights or issues. They depend on each other a lot and they literally share everything except the wives have their own homes and 'wealth' I don't how people do it, it seems like such a monumental task and you also want every child to have enough attention growing up.

[greenday]

A girl can hope can't she

[Advo]

My grandpa may god rest his soul had about 30 kids and they all loved and respect him, he would say something and they would all dance to the tune, however when he passed away about 10 years ago, they kind of splitted into bahs and stuff when it came to sending lacag, qaran etc
Theres no bad blood as they all communicate it just that qof walba hoyadiis buu ku abtirsadaa lol. All 4 ayeeyooyin still alive.

[grandpakhalif]

My great grandfather had 4 Wives and they all produced around 28 kids, things turned out great and they all treated each other well.

[Saraxnow]

That's funny, because mine still haven't split yet. Maybe it will happen.