I am Living through lies at work

[Sumubaridi]

I started my current job while married. I was that happily married young guy like the rest. Having a family pic in my cube and sometimes living work early to do abc with my wife. When I got divorced 4 years ago, I did not want to come out as a failure. So I did not share my personal business with them. They still believe upto now that I am married. I hate lies and that is why I changed my name today. I tried to leave this team and joined a new team whom I can introduce myself as a bachelor who has no wife but I could not get a job. What do you guys suggest? I hate answering " how is your wife ?" Question from the noisy women co-workers.

[drobbah]

You're a loser.what kind of oday calacals on forums like this smh

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

keep lying

[Machiavelli2]

keep lying

Chelsea

Ina Adeer, the most scariest and saddest part is Summu himself believed the lullabies he sings here to be true.

Summu

Ina Adeer, derriska Ma og yihiin inaad xaaska kala tagteen mise hablo foolxun waaye oo inay ku jeclaadaan baa Ka baqi? Haddii ay Sidaa tahay, Eebbe ha kaa qabto foolxumadooda. Bal Ka warran imaamka masjidka? Before he annoys you and pairs you with a 30 something year old professional and successful Somali lady la samaxa Allah, u sheeg inay xaaska kuu joogto oo aad labeeysan karreyn. Sheekada noo wad Ina Adeer.

[gegiroor]

Sumu, why is so hard for you to say to people that you're not married any more?

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

keep lying

Chelsea

Ina Adeer, the most scariest and saddest part is Summu himself believed the lullabies he sings here to be true.

Summu

Ina Adeer, derriska Ma og yihiin inaad xaaska kala tagteen mise hablo foolxun waaye oo inay ku jeclaadaan baa Ka baqi? Haddii ay Sidaa tahay, Eebbe ha kaa qabto foolxumadooda. Bal Ka warran imaamka masjidka? Before he annoys you and pairs you with a 30 something year old professional and successful Somali lady la samaxa Allah, u sheeg inay xaaska kuu joogto oo aad labeeysan karreyn. Sheekada noo wad Ina Adeer.

yesterday it was, how can i stop lying to my parents and now his co workers

[Adali]

This 40 year old emasculated Somali man is crying out to us, we should help him instead of laughing at his sorrow and pain, I personally think my generation will have it worse when we are his age, due our women being 10 times worse.

[Sumubaridi]

Sumu, why is so hard for you to say to people that you're not married any more?

Because in America, divorce is not a normal and easy process like the Somali. It's a lengthy and difficult legal and emotionally damaging process for them. They believe divorced people are mentally damaged and it will affect how you are viewed at work. I am the only man at my work and woman do not like a man who got divorced because they think he cannot be trusted . My supervisor, manager and director are all women. Also, I have to give them a reason for the divorce which I have lie again.

[Sumubaridi]

This 40 year old emasculated Somali man is crying out to us, we should help him instead of laughing at his sorrow and pain, I personally think my generation will have it worse when we are his age, due our women being 10 times worse.

Women are good in general in the younger generation.
You just have to look for a religious one. Subxaanallaah i am not in pain and sorrow. I am just dealing with after Marth of divorce and I hate lies.

[Hyperactive]

if I didn't know you , I would feel bad for you. you are one hell 40 years old man!!

[Susu000]

Oh puuuuhhhleeease people in the states divorce left and right. I bet no one would even bother to ask you about it

[Sumubaridi]

if I didn't know you , I would feel bad for you. you are one hell 40 years old man!!

Sxb Wallaahi I am in Dialama. Dee women are so noisy. I told them today I was out changing my last name yesterday, and the first question I got this morning was, won't your wife also supposed to change her last name. I kind of explain to them that, muslim wives do not take their husband's last name. I am tired of lying, lying about a wife that does not exist. I have to quit this job and look for another new team to come clean. Ya allah.

[Hyperactive]

you do not have to lie such personal thing. you just do not answer or tell them, i rather not to talk my personal things.

war ninyaho been adan wahba ka heleyn , ko sahlana. do you want angels write " kathab" in your book??

avoid lie as you avoid deseases.

[Sumubaridi]

you do not have to lie such personal thing. you just do not answer or tell them, i rather not to talk my personal things.

war ninyaho been adan wahba ka heleyn , ko sahlana. do you want angels write " kathab" in your book??

avoid lie as you avoid deseases.

Maybe I should tell them I am going through divorce now so that they know she is gone. One lie is better than keep lying.

[Hyperactive]

no, tell them the truth. "i went through divorce 4 years ago, and do not wabt talk about it, please" or " i got divorced and i do not want to talk about it" or " i am not married any more and i dont want to talk details about it"