Being a Second Wife

[BlackVelvet]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

[Somali-Transporter]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

[CilmiDoone]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

What was her reason for seeking to be one? Is she is under the illusion that she will get brownie ajar points

[Vivacious]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

She sounds like she is seeing a married man.

[CilmiDoone]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

How so?

[BlackVelvet]

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

And what does he have to give up for his wife?

What was her reason for seeking to be one? Is she is under the illusion that she will get brownie ajar points

If we kept at it she'd probably have said as much. He reasoning was she'd rather be the second than the first to which I asked what about the third, she apparently hadn't thought that far ahead. Oh and of course a second wife to a wealthy man, naturally.

[CilmiDoone]

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

And what does he have to give up for his wife?

What was her reason for seeking to be one? Is she is under the illusion that she will get brownie ajar points

If we kept at it she'd probably have said as much. He reasoning was she'd rather be the second than the first to which I asked what about the third, she apparently hadn't thought that far ahead. Oh and of course a second wife to a wealthy man, naturally.

She sounds very gullible.

[BlackVelvet]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

She sounds like she is seeing a married man.

Not yet, it's just her philosophy in life now apparently. Her reasoning is, he's going to marry a second wife anyway, why not be that one instead and then she tries to justify it. I wonder how many girls are like this nowadays

[BlackVelvet]

She sounds very gullible.

I know right? Out of the frying pan into the fire, she'd rather take the risk of being the second wife than the first, to her this risk of getting hurt is smaller.

That said a lot of Somali men who become rich tend to marry again so that's where she was coming from. She said she'd rather be a rich man's second wife than be the one who helped him get there only to be the first wife of many

[Somali-Transporter]

Have you ever met a young person who is actively seeking to be one? I met up with a "cousin" of mine I haven't seen for a while and she was debating with me about the benefits. Waan ka yaabey, obviously she put the religious twist about it's allowed blah blah blah and about there's more men than women blah blah blah. Waan ka yaabey but in the end it was live and let live but if I ever get married I sure as hell will not be introducing you to my husband.

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

How so?

Men have other things like Jihad, working hard etc etc. but for women it is letting go her ego. which is not easy for her.

Like Ibrahim and sahra they were together sinces they was 16 years old actully they ran together from the muskriin there parents and left turkey for palestine.

that was love like really love what they had together.. but she was tested by god with Hajr, she could not give birth to Ibrahim so she sacrificed here desire and ego and told him to marry her slave Hajr and after she gave birth to his first son.. god gave him a command to take Hajr and Ismael to mecca.. it was not easy for sahra.. it was also some kind of respect for her as well.. but she never said i don't like hajr or created any problems. she used sabr so she was amongst the as-Sabriin..

Anywayzz those people are amongst the best people of this world..

[Hodan94]

who seriously wants to be a second wife??
most men these days don't even treat their multiple wifes with the same respect...so why bother?

[BlackVelvet]

Nabi Muhammad (saw) married a woman who 15 years older than him and one who was a garoob. Therefore go marry one such as she. He also didn't marry another until after her death. If you are going to follow footsteps, why not follow his?

[CilmiDoone]

actully giving up your ego for the sake of your husband--> is a easy access to Jannah

How so?

Men have other things like Jihad, working hard etc etc. but for women it is letting go her ego. which is not easy for her.

Like Ibrahim and sahra they were together sinces they was 16 years old actully they ran together from the muskriin there parents and left turkey for palestine.

that was love like really love what they had together.. but she was tested by god with Hajr, she could not give birth to Ibrahim so she sacrificed here desire and ego and told him to marry her slave Hajr and after she gave birth to his first son.. god gave him a command to take Hajr and Ismael to mecca.. it was not easy for sahra.. it was also a some kind of respect for her aswell.. but she never said i don't like hajr or created any problems. she used sabr so she was amongst the as-Sabriin..

Anywayzz those people are amongst the best people of this world..

lol... so you are of the 'i read a story' lot.... let's unpick this a little further.

1. Provide sources to this story you've posted.
2. Most women are not like Sahra, in that they are not infertile.
3. Your story does not suggest that Sahra was compelled in her decision.
4. Your story does not prove your assertion that "giving up your ego for the sake of your husband = is a easy access to Jannah".
5. Your story does not suggest that Sahra received ajar above and beyond that of any other woman exclusively because of her choice of action.
6. Sabr can be practiced in many different ways, and applied to many different challenges and circumstantes. So let's not pretend that a state of Sabr is exclusively achieved by somen like Sahra.

I mean I could go further, but I won't.

[CilmiDoone]

Men have other things like Jihad, working hard etc etc. but for women it is letting go her ego. which is not easy for her.

And after that comment, it is hard to even take you serious.

[Somali-Transporter]

But hey... Girls you should know one thing which is actully in your favor..

A man can marry 4 wives only if they accept it. which means your husband can't just marry behind your back it is against Islam.. but somali men have made it halal for themselves and are cheating on Allah(Swt) laws..

Your Husband most come to you and tell you I wanna marry this woman with you.. so you have 2 options no or yes. if no and he still wants then he most give you talaq..